If you’ve NEVER been a “people person”, NOW would be a good time to try to get in the habit of at least being amiable with other fellow human beings.

There may come a time, and I certainly hope not, that you will be totally in the hands of others – and mostly strangers.  My time is now.

I had two unexpected severe spinal cord emergency surgeries and a 20% collapsed lung.

I was in ICU for two days, the hospital for several more, and I have been in the rehab hospital for almost two weeks now.

It’s been quite an education and an ongoing one at that. I learned that sometimes when you are going “under” with drugs – you might say things you never would otherwise. I did.  Those failed people skills are not good – but acceptable.

As a child, I was taught to respect others and to say thank you and please.  Sometimes I think those skills are almost forgotten today.

Yes, I am naturally a people person, and yes, I can handle quite a bit of pain before coming unglued.  One thing I knew instinctively when I first awoke from the surgeries is that my problems are NOT the fault of those serving me- such as RN’s LVN’s and CPA’s.

When you are in pain the most important thing you can do is to BREATHE! It will help you relax, and allow your emotions not to be entangled with your intellect.


Also remember, as this is important, no matter how much misery you feel, BE WISE, do not be nasty to the folks who are caring for you.

  1. They did not put you in the hospital or at the doctor’s office.
  2. They are in charge of your moment-by-moment care.  Though I have found ninety-nine percent of those working in this hospital CARE, you might just bump into the one who will therein make your life a lot harder than it should be.
  3. If you have to “wait” for your pain pills, or have to hold your pee longer than you think you can, it does NO good to yell at the people who are there to help you.  They are humans who have to sometimes do and see terrible things.  Be as kind as you can – even if you cuss inside and have to pretend temporarily!

4. Remember the saying “ as you give, so shall you receive.”

People in these fields can be ANGELS of Mercy – Be grateful they are there to do the jobs you need done.

So start right away to exercise your ability to change your perspective a bit.

You don’t have to turn into a different person – just hone your skills!  I hope you never have to have any emergency ANYTHING!  Blessings and love to you and your family.

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  1. susieshy45 Says:

    My people skills are not so good- just limited to please and thank you.
    Will try to appreciate people more.
    Thank you.

    • Marsha J. O'Brien Says:

      I say to you Susieshy, “please and thank you” are very important words to use, and are becoming a lost art. A thank you can mean the world to someone…and please shows respect and courtesy. I wish more people had those “people skills”!

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