Posts Tagged ‘anger’

Relax!

January 29, 2016

Easier said than done.  However in order to enjoy my day I am going to now allow myself 15 minutes to breathe mindfully, to stretch easily, and to pray to keep my mind in a positive mode.

The reason I am feeling in need of a brief “regenerative relaxation” is because I just spent a bit more time than I planned on my stressmanagementmagic.com blog. My subject was about the homeless and the plight of us all, therein.

It may have sounded negative, but I believe I ended the post with ideas to help however many individuals choose to follow.  I follow my own advice.  I also allow myself to regenerate and relax after writing something that made my blood boil for a moment or two.

CREATE a beautiful day for yourself.  I will be in the process of doing the same as soon as this post is posted!  God help and bless us all.

FYI: if you read that blog, remember I have helped people, and will continue to do so when I can and feel the situation is real.

An Eclectic Post

July 7, 2015

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6 weeks old – Axel Bear

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4 months old – Axel Bear

Cherish your pets. They are gifts to us and are really great friends. They depend upon us. They are precious.

If something breaks don’t sweat it. Material things come and go. Our human counterparts are the “things” we must take care not to break with our words, or our actions.

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Material things can (and usually are) replaceable. Even if they are a cherished item that gets broken – just look in the eyes of the person you are upset with and remember words are like double-edged swords-they go directly to the heart. For women sometimes they remain there for years. It is sad, but true.

Here is the tip for the day. Don’t forget to pierce the potato your are going to bake. Just a few with a fork or small pokes with a paring knife. If you do that your potato won’t blow up! (I forgot!)

potatoPlease say a prayer for those who are homeless because they are just unable to do anything else – no matter what the reason.  If they are on drugs they need prayers.  If they are “takers” they need prayers.  If they have lost everything in a fire or flood – they need prayers.  Be generous with your prayers as we all need them and there is absolutely no charge to pray!  Remember with time and circumstance it could be any one of us in need.  Be grateful for every moment and every thing!

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Create a beautiful day for you and your family and friends. Does anyone remember the song “This little light of mine, I’m gonna let it shine…..”?

We all have that light within. Just prompt it to release in the form of a smile, a kind deed or word, or better yet, a great big hug.

Cherish yourself!  So often it takes years to really learn that one!  Somehow I felt cute as a button a few days ago, so I took my first selfie.  (heeheee ) Felt kind of silly, but I hope you can see the joy in my heart.   1st selfieIt still seems really TOO FUNNY to take and post a photo of myself – but I did it anyway!  Pheww! That’s off my bucket list now.  LOL  I know – must be a pretty dumb bucket list!

I can’t stand it.  I have to tell you.  I stood in front of a fan to have that wind blown look.  I don’t know why it still makes me laugh!  That is the silly child within me.

I send hugs and love and blessings to all my family and friends. I don’t take the time often enough to tell each one of you individually how much I love you – so here it is –

I love you! You KNOW who you are…now let’s have a giant air hug!

4 MILLION women are beaten and abused each year.

June 6, 2014

Is that shocking?

Well how’s this for a shocker? That is in the USA – not a third world country! I tried to find statistics on men being beaten or killed by their spouse or partner, but I came up with pretty much nothing. I know there have been some such instances.

The leading cause of violence to women fifteen to forty-four, ( car accidents, mugging and rapes combined) is caused by their husband or domestic partner.)

Here is another stunning fact. 16% of young men between the ages of eleven and twenty are serving time for killing their mother’s abusers.

Something is wrong with this picture! Agreed!

I spoke to a weapons expert in length day before yesterday, and he was kind enough to share some pretty important tips for women who are, or may be in a position to be beaten,

or even worse.   Marshall also teaches a self-defense class.

He seemed appalled that anyone would touch a woman in that manner. He seems to be a really decent man. This is what he shared with me.

1. No stun gun. The stun gun must be held against a person 15 seconds to be effective. In an emergency situation, one mistake and it’s over.

2. No knife. Same result if you aren’t fast and an expert.

3. No gun – unless you have a permit to carry a concealed weapon, know how to use it, and are defending your own life. God forbid you are ever in that scenario!

4. No taser as you have to aim and hit dead on. Even if that happens the connection can be pulled off in most circumstances. Police almost always have a back-up.

5. Pepper Spray – YES! YES! YES! Have your pepper spray in a pocket or concealed within immediate reach. Before he can reach you, spray directly in his eyes. It has to be either in your hand so it is unseen, or concealed in some manner, because if he sees it he can block the spray from his eyes.

This is something Marshall told me that I found extremely interesting. Once you spray the attacker – keep spraying directly in the eyes until the canister is completely empty!

That is important.

He assured me that if you use the whole can you will have time to grab whatever you need (like car keys and a purse)-pick- up the baby (babies) – and escape.

It will not permanently damage the eyes, but will disable your attacker.

He suggested that if you’ve never used a pepper spray before, buy an extra one and go some place and practice.

Practice the “draw”- practice spraying – spray the entire container, and practice, practice, practice.

Rehearse it in your mind an emergency scenario. Keep in mind wind/or a fan can send the spray where it shouldn’t go, so be careful!

Another tip I got was when you are walking alone, keep spray in hand, or car keys. Don’t put yourself in harm’s way, and walk proudly, keeping an eye on your surroundings if you feel insecure.

I firmly believe if a man or woman is drunk – IT IS NOT the time to fight.  Drunks cannot be reasoned with, and sometimes get violent.  Also, I have known women who “egg a man on” – taunt him with words that instigate a man to loose control.  NO that is not reason to abuse physically, but women can sometimes STOP a situation from accelerating by simply being quiet and walking away.

Some good  advice is to NOT listen to music or TALK ON THE PHONE, when you are the least bit nervous about walking or running. Those things put you at a real disadvantage. I know it’s not the most fun, but neither is abuse!

LASTLY – I am aware that there are men who are abused.

I actually have known a man who had a knife drawn on him by his own wife.

In the instance of man vs. woman, I believe that men are born stronger than women…even a small man can probably handle a woman strength-wise. I actually had an attempted rape by a man much smaller than myself. He was able to drop me on the floor quickly.

I thank God I was able to talk my way out of that situation.

Honestly, I do not know how a man would handle a woman abuser, except possibly “contain” her until she calms down – or better yet, WALK AWAY! Get out of the situation, and don’t return for more unless there is a conversation, and counseling. Why put yourself in a volitale position?

I pray you never have ANY abuse (verbal or physical) – man, or woman.  Let’s try to use our intelligence to solve problems…..Have a safe weekend and God bless you!