Posts Tagged ‘help’

The Meaning of Life

February 6, 2017

No one knows the exact meaning of life!  We all have a personal interpretation of it. But one thing that is certain: we are not meant to go through our lives worrying about every detail that crosses our paths.  The result of doing this manifests mental and physical damage to our minds and bodies, and can literally ruin our lives!
That which seems so important to us, things that often occupy our attention and fill our days with stress, are results, not causes; they are secondary, not first. We are so busy or so shaken with our outer lives, we forget what our goals are, and even if we remember and reach them, we are still left restless and dissatisfied.
Sometimes when we wonder what the real meaning of life is, we let our thoughts get heavy and desperate. We forget the wonder and joy of every day.  It is easy to do in this world.
Life is not to be explained in terms of aims and ends and goals, but only in terms of living this moment, moment after moment.
Life is consciousness. There is a direct relationship between our thoughts, attitudes and beliefs and what happens in our lives.  We are NOT powerless pawns whose experiences are determined by other people and worldly conditions.
Stress management techniques and various trainings are a powerful ally to thousands of people who seek to express dominion over their circumstances, and really change their lives.
Before you can have dominion over your circumstances, you MUST have DOMINION over your oxygen and your body. It sounds simple, but truthfully, how many times today have you thought about your breathing or done something positive for your body?
“Mind, body and spirit” are all finely woven together to become your life. Whether negative and unhealthy, or positive and healthy, your life is pretty much your choice. You just have to make the decision to really change from within yourself.
As we think we create brain cell impressions.  Remember that any state of mind manifests itself as our experience.  When you are grounded and relaxed, you are in control of your body’s responses, you will create positive and powerful brain cell impressions.
Remember:  Any consciousness or state of mind will linger. When we are angry the feelings often remain with us for hours.  When we are happy the joy can color our world beautifully can be lasting too.
Memories will stir the emotions repeatedly, IF we allow that to happen. The winds of turmoil hits all of us, but if you can accept, adapt, and control your response to whatever you need to, by using your oxygen and thereby controlling your bodily responses, you will change your life for the better (and the lives of those around you).  By taking charge of your thoughts you can eliminate a problem that you are worried about that might never take place.
ANY change takes practice, practice, practice, and then the knowledge and belief it will work.  We have miracles stored up within! It sounds like work – but it is opening a door to a new life, and a new you!
Go forth in spite of all difficulties.  Every day new vistas, and new revelations will come to you.  By the science of controlling your own life energy, you will master subtle gifts you have been given.  You have the capacity to change your life through your own CHOICES.
Think: strength and peace and transcend the lack of harmony and contradictions of life.  Mistakes and errors are in your mind.  Let your soul force (your life’s breath) drive the negative from you.  Our lives are largely our perceptions from within, even more so than conditions without.  Cultivate harmony from within and you will spread it to others.
Everywhere you go, even into the most incongruous circumstances, you will be able to find and nurture an underlying harmony.
Always take a slow and mindful breath, and then exhale slowly too. Whenever you feel you are out of control, stop. Use your oxygen. Be in charge of slowing your mind and your body’s responses. It is a MIRACLE you carry with you.

You don’t have to think about it as it is a natural act…your breathing. But you can find the miracle of life if you take a moment or two and use your oxygen mindfully.
Think before you speak.  Choose a positive response to the situation, and you will find a “new you” emerging.

You can read this and then go on to something else, or you can dissect it and re-read it and REALLY choose to leave your “out of control” life behind, and do the easiest exercise in the world to reinvent your life…BREATHE!

The meaning of life? Who knows! But whatever it is, YOU HAVE the OPTION of being in charge of YOU and enjoying each moment on the journey to see what happens next!

(I am not kidding about this. I broke my back almost four years ago, and went from partially paralyzed in a wheelchair, having to learn to walk again..baby steps, using a cane and starting what I have left of life over….yesterday I ventured out without a cane! I attribute this to lots of prayer, and lots of challenges being met with BREATHING, BREATHING, BREATHING! I want YOU to climb the mountain with me.)

You can’t change anyone else.

January 2, 2017

approaching-stormYou can change. You cannot change anyone else. He or she can change, but it will only happen for some people when they have gone “as far as they can go” – the other way.

Keep praying. Keep hope.

There will be a day when strong groups meld together and keep the faith silently, as eons before now. Many will loose hope and try to find another way. Never loose hope. In our hearts is a cornerstone that must be recognized before the heart can function wholly. The emptiness within will never be filled until acknowledgement that this is the way of things…once and for all.

Do not play with fire. Do not arouse unseen things that you have little knowledge of unless you are able to be certain which way the wind blows. If your feet stand firmly and heart unshaken in the face of fear. Look to the East. There is always a way, but to find it you must follow your path and open your heart to understanding and forgiveness.

 

 

 

Picking up the pieces

September 25, 2016

 

I opened the refrigerator and saw the crystal bowl, as if in slow motion, drop in waves and then hit the floor with a mighty sound of glass splintering and grapes breaking off into all directions.

People use God’s name is so many situations. Thank God it’s cooled down. Thank God no one was hurt. Thank God the storm was less than expected. I often wonder if the name of God is even recognized any more, and if God has become just a phrase to express relief. I wonder if people really mean THANK GOD.

Thank God no splinters flew into the eyes of my puppy, standing off a far, looking as if he had done something wrong. I wondered if he would run off to the “naughty room”, his dog house, as he does when he carries something in his mouth that doesn’t belong there.

No, thank God he stood still and just watched, along with my good old girl, Dakota. Black as the night, wide eyed as children, they just waited for some reaction from me. To their surprise, I laughed. Why not.

My husband says to open any door or cupboard anywhere in the house is like looking for a bomb to explode. This time he was right. No one got cut. The bowl was just a material object, and the only other loss was a bunch of grapes.

I cleaned everything up. Looked at the precarious position of an opened twelve pack of Ginger Ale, I and decided to leave them where they were on the third shelf. Why not live dangerously….

It was so much easier to laugh and smile than to let the current situation overcome my senses and my life. I knew this too would pass.

Now think of politics. Let it go. It is not going to be life-changing to throw away all the moments and days we spend worrying. Let it go, and as it’s been said many times before….

Let it go and let God! The only control we really have is our response to life. I tried being miserable and it sucked. So I gave it up.

Here is the Confession

September 6, 2016

Here is the confession. Since my accident and incidents therein,

Too often I fall into deep depression.

 

I know in cyberspace there are fellow humans of like mind,

sometimes we search for answers, but answers do not find.

 

There is nothing shameful about having depression you see,

It happens in this lifetime, next door and across the sea,

It happens to us all -to you, and even me.

 

We are human. We feel love, terror, and pain, trauma.

Depression can hit us all – depression is not drama!

 

I awoke this morning covered with sorrow like dense fog.

Unable to find the departure, chained like a wild dog.

 

“What is the purpose of life?” I thought. My life is changed forever, and not for better.

I had a pity party – a pitiful one – no one came.

 

It was only I, raging like I was waging a war against myself.

Then praying, while rather insane, I placed my mind upon a shelf.

 

At last I thought, I knew what to do. Divert my own attention to something else……and maybe you should too.

 

So I left the room I was working in, took a breath or two and dropped to my knees.

“Give me help dear Lord, I prayed, let my heart feel at peace, if you please.”

 

Here I lay in bed, with laptop resting on my legs.

Writing simple poetry, trying to turn a phrase.

 

If I dwell on my sorrow, and cry and whimper, I will to hell cross the line,

Then I won’t smile or have joy in this moment of time.

 

All we have is this moment to live,

I must turn my thoughts not to get, but to love and to give.

 

I lay here and realize I still can write.

I can see in the daytime, and find rest at night.

 

Within there is a flicker of my light that should shine for many reasons I know.

I will find a few to jostle my memory, and wrestle depression with strength just to show….

 

I can DO whatever I think I can! My sorrows are few compared to many a man.

I do not know how much I time I have left to look at my life – nor days to enjoy.

 

I want to be an example of faith and of love,

I will keep praying for power from that of above.

 

I AM better already, can you read and see? Like I would with a child who needs help,

I diverted my own attention, and the task set me free.

 

Change your thoughts, change your emotions.

Use your wits to climb from the pits.

 

You may think this a silly poem, and some might think it not a poem at all.

But by taking the time to write it I kept myself from a major fall!

 

Do not stumble, do not muddle your thoughts to far worse than it is!

Now what was the stress management technique I used?

Ah, yes,….this is a quiz!

 

Simple and easy what to do – divert your attention – and God will bless you!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What do you think of when you awake?

May 15, 2016

I wake and my brain begins to think of everything! Why does bad things happen to good people? Can we turn things around just by thinking differently? What makes me care about people I don’t even know, that are half way around the world? Why do we always try to pigeonhole a person before we know the real person? What makes us keep trying when everything has gone wrong? Have all people thought of suicide at least one time? If someone told me they would kill me would I really stand up for what I believe? Are puppies just a beautiful gift from a creative creator? Dreams are so real. Is this life really real, or are my dreams real and this is just a manifestation of my mind?

Then I get up and head for the coffee. In five minutes of lying in my bed and trying to wake up, m mind has already asked hundreds, not just a few, questions about it all!

My best bet, and this is the truth, is to drop to my knees before rising, and give thanks for another breath, and lay the concerns in my brain before my Master. I know I ask more thank I give thanks, but thanks is always on my mind, and when I sway just a bit off my true path, my life begins to diminish in small currents of unrest and dissatisfaction. It always happens. I just don’t always recognize it until I am bursting into tears and wondering why good things happen to bad people.

It is like a cycle an alcoholic follows. Don’t drink. Just to ease the concerns of the day.

If one made me relax, two will help a bit more. The increase of alcohol is in small increments. It may take days to reach for and consume “more than enough” to be drunk and disoriented. To be waking the next morning with regret and sorrow and no memory of the horrible things someone says you did. It may happen that same hour. Open your eyes and your life is passed by. It could have happened to me. Don’t drink.

Without God there is a hole in my heart that cannot be filled. Without God there is no peace beyond understanding. Without God love diminishes and that empty space becomes filled with treachery and evil that lurks everywhere to snap you up and eat you alive.

With God, all things are possible.

Therein, I will forgo the second cup of coffee and make my way to my bed and carefully get to my knees. I love to pray with surrender and respect, and when I get on my knees I feel I am honoring God a bit more – though I know He accepts prayers at any time and anywhere. He loves to hear from his children…even if they have yet to learn they are His. Even if they hesitate to use His proper name, as a parent hearing his child say “daddy”, and though he may be far away, the child’s daddy will hear the child’s call.

Love one another. Forgive one another. Love your Creator. Remember these are our tasks. We are not here to judge one another. Ease your mind and let the Spirit fill His home made within our early bodies and mind.

As we think so shall we become.   Mind over matter. Be grateful for each Nano second and waste them not!

You might this this photo isn’t related to this post – and it really isn’t – but I wanted to share something I snapped while out running errands a week or so ago.  These are my favorite type clouds, and for a moment they took me to a dream state of peeking out from between the clouds to check out earth!  I moment of fantasy and pleasure out of no where.  They are abundant – just open your eyes and have a blessed day!

cloudsCulumus clouds                                             Splendid, eh?

 

GOOD MORNING!

October 6, 2014

I believe it is a beautiful day.  Even if I didn’t, I would talk myself into it by creating new brain cell impressions:  It’s a beautiful day.  It’s a beautiful day.  It’s a beautiful day.

It works.  Thoughts become your life.  That’s kind of general, but it is true.  Also the creating of new brain cells is true!  We are a precision and wonderful human machine.  Far better than any mechanical thing!  Believe it!

Someone ask me if I would republish one of my posts, so that is what I am doing today.  If you haven’t read it, I hope you enjoy it.  I have published over six hundred and fifty posts!  Yikes – I must love to write!  Yes, I do.

So here it is.  Enjoy and CREATE a beautiful day for yourself and those in your circle of life.  Time is fleeting so take advantage of every single moment.

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Rambling from the heart

Beautiful is a friend who always there for you, even if she should be taking care of herself.
Beautiful is kindness that comes directly from the heart, and is unending for those in need.
Beautiful is a smile that doesn’t have to be pasted on, but one that reflects joy and sincerity.
Beautiful is character that molds itself from life’s experiences, and grows in quality and positive traits.
Beautiful is being able to face someone and look them in the eyes and know they love you too.
Beautiful is faith that is recognized, and credit given to He that paid the highest sacrifice.
Beautiful is genuine motivation to give something in life that shares healing with others.

Beautiful is a word that cannot be fully described, yet you know when you see real beauty because there is a vibrance, and a shining glow that can only be captured with the word beautiful!

Be beautiful  – it’s possible for all – for beauty lies within the heart, so open yours and let your light shine.  When you love, love will come to you bountifully.

Learn to give, and you learn to live!

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This photograph may have you wondering.  I will explain.  One day my daughter said her two children were bored.  She got creative.  She let them make a tent from moving a few things, using a few blankets, and a flashlight.  They had a blast and when done invited her to join them.  You can’t see the kiddos, but you can see my daughter’s leg.  Have fun with your children.  As I have said before, time is fleeting.  To finish – at some point, they all pitched in to clean things up.  What a great afternoon!

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WARNING FOR THOSE WITH CHILDREN

September 8, 2014

Just read in the news about a virus hitting the midwest. CDC is concerned it may spread to all states. Just BE AWARE of the symptoms and keep an eye on the children. It may be alarming, but knowledge is power, so don’t be alarmed – just stay focused on your kids. I send love and blessings to you all.
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(CNN) — A respiratory virus is sending hundreds of children to hospitals in Missouri and possibly throughout the Midwest and beyond, officials say.
The unusually high number of hospitalizations reported now could be “just the tip of the iceberg in terms of severe cases,” said Mark Pallansch, a virologist and director of the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s Division of Viral Diseases.
“We’re in the middle of looking into this,” he told CNN on Sunday. “We don’t have all the answers yet.”
Ten states have contacted the CDC for assistance in investigating clusters of enterovirus: Colorado, North Carolina, Georgia, Ohio, Iowa, Illinois, Missouri, Kansas, Oklahoma and Kentucky.
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Enteroviruses, which bring on symptoms like a very intense cold, aren’t unusual. They’re actually common. When you have a bad summer cold, often what you have is an enterovirus, he said. The season often hits its peak in September.
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The unusual situation now is that there have been so many hospitalizations.
The virus has sent more than 30 children a day to a Kansas City, Missouri, hospital, where about 15% of the youngsters were placed in intensive care, officials said.
In a sign of a possible regional outbreak, Colorado, Illinois and Ohio are reporting cases with similar symptoms and are awaiting testing results, according to officials and CNN affiliates in those states.
In Kansas City, about 475 children were recently treated at Children’s Mercy Hospital, and at least 60 of them received intensive hospitalization, spokesman Jake Jacobson said.
“It’s worse in terms of scope of critically ill children who require intensive care. I would call it unprecedented. I’ve practiced for 30 years in pediatrics, and I’ve never seen anything quite like this,” said Dr. Mary Anne Jackson, the hospital’s division director for infectious diseases.
“We’ve had to mobilize other providers, doctors, nurses. It’s big,” she said.
The Kansas City hospital treats 90% of that area’s ill children. Staff members noticed an initial spike on August 15, Jackson said.
“It could have taken off right after school started. Our students start back around August 17, and I think it blew up at that point,” Jackson said. “Our peak appears to be between the 21st and the 30th of August. We’ve seen some leveling of cases at this point.”

THIS IS SOMETHING WONDERFUL! I AM SURE YOU WILL LOVE IT!

August 20, 2014

Here is the best reason I have ever heard for just “turning” the covers down on the beds and not making them each day!  The air freshens the sheets and dries out any moisture that may be left on them, and at the same time kills bed mites!  Don’t cringe…we all have bed mites we can’t see!  YUK.

I will never make a bed again!

If you want a very simple stress management technique, go to my website: stressmanagementmagic.com and read today’s post.  It’s short!

CREATE a beautiful day full of individually wonderful moments.  Your the boss applesauce!  At least the boss of YOU!

Here are some flowers just for you!
Flower mix

Movie Reviews

August 12, 2014

A quick movie review. I feel qualified only because I have intelligence, taste and morals! (Actually, since my husband was hurt badly in 2003 and I was last year – we have watched (verifiably) over two thousand movies. That is sad, in a way, because we think holly weird passes the wrong messages to younger people.

Here goes:

Noah: The actors and special effects were jut fine, but something “lacked ” in the writing. If anyone was trying to see what Noah of the Bible was really like – this was wayyyyyy far off base. As far as everyone I have spoken with – the consensus is the same – entertaining, but nothing really special.

Under the Skin: For all the hype you would think this such an amazing move! It was- amazingly unprofound (is that a word?) and stupid. Yes, the actress is very pretty, and her nude body is fine too – but as far as the movie – YUK. Don’t spend your money. REALLY. It wasn’t a spectacular alien movie. She isn’t as pretty as Brad Pitt’s wife, you know who I mean, Angelina, and most of the movie was focused on her face. She has a nice smile, but as far as the rest of the acting – acting? Where? We watched it all because my curiosity is extreme, and I needed to know if there was a point I would be overwhelmed with the quality or story of the movie. NOT. If anything I was under whelmed. What a piece of trash and the time I spent “giving it a chance” is lost forever. Bleck!

Non-Stop with Liam NIiesem (that’s close) – what an unexpected A movie! I was totally shocked as I hadn’t heard of it, and it was one of those movies you can’t take your eyes off the screen because it is so exciting. Well worth the money. There is something sexy about that man.

Heaven is Real: I read the book. It was quite good, and a best seller because it is true. I don’t think the movie was quite as thrilling as the book, but my husband (who is crazy for wild stuff), even professed, he really enjoyed it.   A true story. I can relate to being “out of the body” as I was once after an accident…good to sit with family and ponder life and all that we can’t see.

Forgive the typing and all, I am still in a splint and with only my right hand (am left-handed) it is what you see is what you get. CHOOSE your movies carefully – they are sneaky in holly weird….we saw a movie (can’t think of the name of it) not too long ago, and NONE of the sexual violence was in the previews.

I had an attempted rape. It’s not funny, and it’s not sexy. Think of your daughters, sisters, mothers and girlfriends, guys, and don’t let that you see on screen entice you.

It’s your life – PICK AND CHOOSE!

 

BTway – I always choose “elderly or seniors with tags and categories as they NEED to be involved with life, with reality, with a part of what is happening now.  They have earned it!

 

How to save money on makeup!

August 9, 2014

Mix it up baby! makeup.jpgDon’t throw anything away.  I mix until I get the colors I want-add sunscreen to my face makeup, and moisture.  Works perfectly. Put less expensive lipsticks and glosses what is left of that more expensive stuff  – Take a bit of work to crunch it together, but I love what happens in the end.  It is perfectly matched for my complexion – just like the face makeup…and a little bit is all I use.  Lasts for a long, long time beautifully.

I am one practical little mamba.  🙂  I also shop at yard sales and decent thrift stores.  You save a bundle of money, get a much better selection and mix, and the materials are softer than new.  Of course I wash everything and I buy my “personals” new, but I have a pretty fantastic little wardrobe for much less money!  Also, if I get sloppy or someone spills on me, for the price, I can just throw whatever it is away – if need be.

There is no shame is being clever!  Have a wonderful weekend ladies!  You too, gentlemen.