Posts Tagged ‘Love’

HOW TO RECEIVE LOVE

June 6, 2017

This sounds like a very strange statement. I am not writing about sexual love….for a woman that kind of love can happen at the snap of a finger. For a man, a bit tougher, but the trend has been “if he works it right…”

I am writing about the kind of love that makes it almost humanly impossible to live without. The kind of love that even someone who says, “I don’t need anybody.” will ultimately drive him or her, (if absolutely alone long enough) mad.

The inborn need to receive love is just a part of the living soul and human physiology. In other wards, we are born to need love to fill in one of the empty spaces in our hearts.

You may or may not agree with these statements, but in all my years of writing, I have never written anything but what I know to be truth. Yes, the “truth”, as I know it, might have something to do with what life has given and taken away from me. I understand this.

In my particular case, however, I have while in this tiny body lived through at least one instance of everything you can think of that can happen to a human being. We all have our “crosses to to beard, alluding to Jesus, as he was forced to carry his own cross to his crucifixion.

I hesitate now and realize there are several things I have not had to endure in this life. I am grateful for those nightmares manifesting in my life, and I shall not give them credence. I’ve learned this much. Do not give in to fear of anything, nor be certain the evil will happen to you.

Do not open the door for evil or negative in any manner, and you shall save yourself a life of fear and worry. Draw the positive to you by thought. “As we think, so shall we be….”

Those words mean everything! Thought dreams press us forward, thoughts motivate us and keep us from fear – if we endeavor to keep our thoughts of a higher nature.

In other wards remember that no matter what happens to us, we are always given – one hundred percent of the time – the choice to pick our response. A beautiful way to happiness is to choose the positive road. In EVERY scenario, at some point, you will be able to use what has happened, or is happening, to either learn and grow, or wither and loose the power we have been given…all of us has this power within.

Kind of got off on a side road, but my thoughts are play a part in the adventure of learning to receive love. It is out there and available to us. All of us!

It doesn’t matter who you are, how much you have or don’t have, how you match up to the media’s judgments (meaning internet, magazines, books, television or any avenue of transporting “opinions.” Those written words are also just a compilation of opinions.

Now down to the nitty gritty. Here are ten ways to receive love!

1. You must love you first! Drop all the preconceived notions you’ve heard about you! Dig deeply and find who you really think you are – and / or who you would like to be! It is all based on perception…your own. I can honestly say I have only meant a few “ugly people in my life. Those few people may have been handsome, brilliant, and talented initially. You KNOW my next statement is true: after getting to know that person, depending on their heart and actions, they will either still be as you first saw them, or perhaps even more handsome or lovelier. However if they are horrible people, ugly in nature, do evil things and are arrogant or filled with other negative things, they will become less handsome, less brilliant, and less “everything” as you get to know them. This is a true statement. You know it is. So dig deeply and even if you only find one thing you love about yourself, make it prominent – love it, invest in it, and love yourself. If you can’t love yourself no one else will be able to either!
2.  At first meeting (when appropriate) SMILE. Smile either by getting into the habit or just because you are now happy you love something about yourself…because loving yourself makes you innately feel worthy. So smile, smile, smile. Nothing opens the door to invite love as effectively as turning to meet someone and seeing them wearing a broad and honest smile. Maybe “just because.” I often find myself smiling for no reason in particular. It feels better. Perhaps love your smile! Others will for sure. (I don’t mean looking in a mirror. I believe satan created mirrors and scales! Think about it.) This will draw people towards you.

3. If meeting someone for the first time and a handshake is offered, give a good strong one. Nothing says confidence and personal strength as a sturdy handshake; man or woman. A judgment is made, believe me, by the quality of your handshake. Make it like you sincerely are glad to meet this person. This will draw this person into “your perception.”…a smile means happy, and it can also mean joy for life, a good secret, admiration for the person you share a handshake with, and much more. It is a valuable tool in beginning to receive love
4. Be concise and BRIEF in your statements in that introductory meeting. I write so I usually write a book as opposed to a post. I need to follow this rule myself. Therein, I will finish with number 5 and post and wait until I honestly have the time to finish this comfortably without putting extra pressure on myself knowing I have pressing things to do today. Unless you are brought into the conversation do not offer your life story!
5. Listen. Honestly and thoroughly listen to the person who is speaking. Do not think about what you will say when that person is finished. We all do this once in a while, and some people rarely think about what the other person is saying, and simply think about when they get “stage center” and review their own responses. Be yourself, and let your natural self flourish. Listen. Show interest in the other persons comments and thoughts….you might learn something valuable. Ask. Ask about the person and then listen! Use your memory to remember names (that is important), and the information they are sharing. Honestly, if you really aren’t interested in listening you will never get to know this person and your chances of receiving love are pretty low. Remember. They will appreciate the fact you really cared enough, upon first meeting….and meetings thereafter…to listen and remember. Those are enduring qualities. They nurture seeds of potentially flowering love.

It’s time to tear myself from today’s post and do the things I know I need to do. This is an example of how to love yourself. You will appreciate the fact YOU take care of business! That alone should make you smile. Don’t forget to smile. It is urgent in the quest for real and relationships, friendships, and love.

CREATE a beautiful day. I send my hopes for real blessings for you, and my love!

Don’t forget to praise any attempt from someone to do or say “good.”

May 26, 2017

These are a few of my favorite things anyone has said to me in my entire life. I have tried to base my actions and my days on these things. I choose now to forget the “other” things people have said – I might cry!

Someone once told me I have the faint cracklings of a healer. I loved that. I would love to heal everything – people, scenarios, war and discontent, communication between people. I cannot of course – but I can keep trying.

My daughter told me once that I channel what I believe…I channel God. Now I know I have not always, for sure, been a true reflection, but it surely inspired me….and I keep trying. Never give up and never give in!

I was told that my presence, at that particular time, to that particular person, was that of an angel. I have been told that several times, and I would love that to aspire to that purity and character…Wasn’t that lovely? Of course I know I am not – but I fly in my dreams – and I know I could in this life, if I could just remember how!

My eldest son told me he was sorry for all the times he had been mean to me. I was shocked. I never thought a thing of it because we all have our “growth” spurts, and love is unconditional and forever in my mind. He said he guessed he was mean because all through his life I had always been there – in the good times, and in the very bad times. It touched my heart, though love never runs away because of fear or distress- or because of mean words.

More than once people have said, “I like your smile. It made me smile.” Cool. Less wrinkles to smile, more fun. But truthfully, I think I was born with a special “happy” gift – a positive outlook in the most stressful times. It wasn’t easy sometimes, but I have always endeavored to smile. Honestly……it is habit now, and why not! Better to enter any scenario with a smile than a scowl. What we do becomes habit. (That is one of the very important things I teach in stress management.). Get into the habit of working to be happy – even if it starts out poorly, you have the challenge to turn it around.

When I broke my back, was treated poorly and dismissed, and my back literally burst – I might have been broken in Spirit forever. I attribute my faith, as the biggest factor, and my “habit of working to be happy” somewhere just below that. We always have a choice.

While in rehab I had a physician saying the nicest thing to me. He said, “I wish I could bottle up what it is you have and sell it!” WOW. Not to be sold, I guess. Just CHOOSE to get into the HABIT of thinking in positive terms. Sounds too simple. It is. Also, I can never diminish the power of prayer. For those who have never REALLY believed it works – be dogmatic about prayer, and then KNOW it will work for the best, in one way or another. (Not always your choice, but always the best.

I have had a full life thus far, though most of it is behind me, I look forward to seeing what is next. I want me to be my best ever. I have learned from a thousand mistakes and poor choices, and from those incidents which were not even my fault!

I prayed for guidance last night and woke up to feeling inspired write. IF I am able, I allow myself an hour to pray, read and write upon waking. It is a delicious time! There has to be benefits to getting older…I love to write and hope the things I write are of some pleasure and USE to you! Life experiences are great teachers.
There isn’t ANYTHING you cannot rise above! Whatever happens – you have 100% choice in response. Onward and upward. Out of sight and unknown personally – I TRULY send you love and hope.

I could tell you so many terrible things I remember in my lifetime, but the thing about being human is that if we focus on the GOOD – look upward and move onward – and LEARN, we will blossom like a flower. I’d rather be a flower than a prickly cactus. Smiling is so much easier.

Do something for someone today (something little or big) and don’t tell a soul! It will be tempting to talk about it, but it is so much more exhilarating to have the deed between you and whomever you believe as a creator. The Creator watches.

If you don’t believe in a higher power, then silently think about the deed and be proud of your choice, amidst all the tension and delusion that is happening around the world. It will bring a smile to your face sometime-probably more than once. It’s good to share love.

And if you think of the horrible days and comments made to you, then STOP IT. That was then.
This is now. On your mark….get set….go! And as my daddy used to say, GOOD on you! 🙂

The Perfect Flower

April 16, 2017

My love he watches by the fence, His gazing eyes my heart to clench…
Nothing more could be as sweet, as lying at my lover’s feet.
If all the world condemned in me, that moment of sweet ecstasy;
I’d seek him in my darkest hour, as looking for the perfect flower.
I’d listen close to hear his voice, he is the one; my only choice…
To find him at the break of day, then stay until the day gives way…
Just like honey on my lips, his presence holds me in its grips.
He lays his hand upon my face, full of mercy… full of grace!
Oh dear heart, please stay with me, your true love… I’ll always be.
All other loves I’ve cast aside, my love for you… I cannot hide.
I wait and wait till midnight hour, and then I’ll find the perfect flower.

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LET US WAKE UP BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE!

March 1, 2017

Human intelligence fluctuates with habits. We become what we hear, see, and are told.
“They” have to dumb us down for us to be fixated on what the advertisers are selling. The perfect face, the perfect body, perfect sex, the perfect home, the perfect toy, the perfect wardrobe, perfect furnishings and electronics, the perfect car, and so forth.

Really? Do we really need to buy because the money machine tells us to do so? Buy it all and then die young from the stress in trying to pay for everything. This is not a joke!
Stress kills.

Should we really think it is entertainment to go to the mall with our children and friends? Where is the hell did we get that idea? Oh, never mind, I know.

Black Friday – REALLY? Grey Thursday? Technological what day? Let me grab my wallet and go buy a bunch of prettily packaged up JUNK made IN CHINA. It will last long enough to get the next model of stuff out so our new purchases will be outdated.

We need to open our eyes. Get out of the “habit” of buying! Material things come and go. Love is forever.

Pretty simple.

Picking up the pieces

September 25, 2016

 

I opened the refrigerator and saw the crystal bowl, as if in slow motion, drop in waves and then hit the floor with a mighty sound of glass splintering and grapes breaking off into all directions.

People use God’s name is so many situations. Thank God it’s cooled down. Thank God no one was hurt. Thank God the storm was less than expected. I often wonder if the name of God is even recognized any more, and if God has become just a phrase to express relief. I wonder if people really mean THANK GOD.

Thank God no splinters flew into the eyes of my puppy, standing off a far, looking as if he had done something wrong. I wondered if he would run off to the “naughty room”, his dog house, as he does when he carries something in his mouth that doesn’t belong there.

No, thank God he stood still and just watched, along with my good old girl, Dakota. Black as the night, wide eyed as children, they just waited for some reaction from me. To their surprise, I laughed. Why not.

My husband says to open any door or cupboard anywhere in the house is like looking for a bomb to explode. This time he was right. No one got cut. The bowl was just a material object, and the only other loss was a bunch of grapes.

I cleaned everything up. Looked at the precarious position of an opened twelve pack of Ginger Ale, I and decided to leave them where they were on the third shelf. Why not live dangerously….

It was so much easier to laugh and smile than to let the current situation overcome my senses and my life. I knew this too would pass.

Now think of politics. Let it go. It is not going to be life-changing to throw away all the moments and days we spend worrying. Let it go, and as it’s been said many times before….

Let it go and let God! The only control we really have is our response to life. I tried being miserable and it sucked. So I gave it up.

Here is the Confession

September 6, 2016

Here is the confession. Since my accident and incidents therein,

Too often I fall into deep depression.

 

I know in cyberspace there are fellow humans of like mind,

sometimes we search for answers, but answers do not find.

 

There is nothing shameful about having depression you see,

It happens in this lifetime, next door and across the sea,

It happens to us all -to you, and even me.

 

We are human. We feel love, terror, and pain, trauma.

Depression can hit us all – depression is not drama!

 

I awoke this morning covered with sorrow like dense fog.

Unable to find the departure, chained like a wild dog.

 

“What is the purpose of life?” I thought. My life is changed forever, and not for better.

I had a pity party – a pitiful one – no one came.

 

It was only I, raging like I was waging a war against myself.

Then praying, while rather insane, I placed my mind upon a shelf.

 

At last I thought, I knew what to do. Divert my own attention to something else……and maybe you should too.

 

So I left the room I was working in, took a breath or two and dropped to my knees.

“Give me help dear Lord, I prayed, let my heart feel at peace, if you please.”

 

Here I lay in bed, with laptop resting on my legs.

Writing simple poetry, trying to turn a phrase.

 

If I dwell on my sorrow, and cry and whimper, I will to hell cross the line,

Then I won’t smile or have joy in this moment of time.

 

All we have is this moment to live,

I must turn my thoughts not to get, but to love and to give.

 

I lay here and realize I still can write.

I can see in the daytime, and find rest at night.

 

Within there is a flicker of my light that should shine for many reasons I know.

I will find a few to jostle my memory, and wrestle depression with strength just to show….

 

I can DO whatever I think I can! My sorrows are few compared to many a man.

I do not know how much I time I have left to look at my life – nor days to enjoy.

 

I want to be an example of faith and of love,

I will keep praying for power from that of above.

 

I AM better already, can you read and see? Like I would with a child who needs help,

I diverted my own attention, and the task set me free.

 

Change your thoughts, change your emotions.

Use your wits to climb from the pits.

 

You may think this a silly poem, and some might think it not a poem at all.

But by taking the time to write it I kept myself from a major fall!

 

Do not stumble, do not muddle your thoughts to far worse than it is!

Now what was the stress management technique I used?

Ah, yes,….this is a quiz!

 

Simple and easy what to do – divert your attention – and God will bless you!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This moment is all we have.

July 29, 2016

If you have to talk yourself into moving out of despair – do it.

If you have to lie to yourself to take on the day – do it.

There is no happiness if you do not think it so.

There is no begin again and live a life – this fact I know.

 

The choice is yours and yours alone.

No one can do it for you. Your perception will be your life.

 

If you opt to wade in a pool of anger and sorrow,

You will go deeper each day, till there is no tomorrow.

 

If people try to tell you others have it worse,

You can bet your life they do –

But the problem that you face,

Is yours and yours alone.

 

The song that you sing is an individual and fearful one,

To stand up and walk, to still keep the faith,

To move onward and upward no matter what you face.

 

You MUST DO IT. You may not believe it now.

You CAN DO IT. I can’t even tell you how.

 

Just remember there is more power from within- than there has ever been.

Call upon the healing that your body knows,

and see it happen slowly, but steady as she goes.

 

A counselor told me once I had control of the life I would live.

Not what happens to me, but the responses I give.

 

I choose my destiny no matter what.

My life by my heart, by my actions and thought.

 

 

No tacos Tonight

June 23, 2016

My husband says when I shop and just slam things in the refrigerator because I am on a roll to do “other things”, before the heat sets in, I create bombs!

Well………BOOM!  Opened it and sure enough the unbreakable bowl flew out and dropped directly before me on the carpet – and the bowl into slivers.  It was a strange break. So much for an unbreakable dish!

No spaghetti for tonight

Choices.  I could have cried.  But instead I chose to laugh.  It did seem funny and trivial in the scheme of things.  An unbreakable bowl, red taco sauce on the carpet, and having to fix something else for dinner.  Sniff, sniff, boo-hoo – just kidding!  I laughed.  I did create a bomb.  Just glad it didn’t land on my toes!

Onward and upward.  Laugh when you can, cry if need be, walk away if possible, fight only for life, and pray, pray, pray!   Choose to create bountiful moments one right after the other.  It is MUCH MORE FUN to keep the sense of humor in tact.

I am counting on you to take charge of your “moments” and even if you blow it one moment – start again – the next!


If any of you have read my stressmanagementmagic.com blog, that particular website disappeared, along with (if I don’t have copies somewhere) over 200 posts!  So I will let you know when and if I am going to start another.  In the meantime I will probably just combine the stress management information with this blog!

CREATE your day.  No matter what happens, you have the choice to REACT 100% of the time, however you choose.  I choose happy!

 

 

 

What do you think of when you awake?

May 15, 2016

I wake and my brain begins to think of everything! Why does bad things happen to good people? Can we turn things around just by thinking differently? What makes me care about people I don’t even know, that are half way around the world? Why do we always try to pigeonhole a person before we know the real person? What makes us keep trying when everything has gone wrong? Have all people thought of suicide at least one time? If someone told me they would kill me would I really stand up for what I believe? Are puppies just a beautiful gift from a creative creator? Dreams are so real. Is this life really real, or are my dreams real and this is just a manifestation of my mind?

Then I get up and head for the coffee. In five minutes of lying in my bed and trying to wake up, m mind has already asked hundreds, not just a few, questions about it all!

My best bet, and this is the truth, is to drop to my knees before rising, and give thanks for another breath, and lay the concerns in my brain before my Master. I know I ask more thank I give thanks, but thanks is always on my mind, and when I sway just a bit off my true path, my life begins to diminish in small currents of unrest and dissatisfaction. It always happens. I just don’t always recognize it until I am bursting into tears and wondering why good things happen to bad people.

It is like a cycle an alcoholic follows. Don’t drink. Just to ease the concerns of the day.

If one made me relax, two will help a bit more. The increase of alcohol is in small increments. It may take days to reach for and consume “more than enough” to be drunk and disoriented. To be waking the next morning with regret and sorrow and no memory of the horrible things someone says you did. It may happen that same hour. Open your eyes and your life is passed by. It could have happened to me. Don’t drink.

Without God there is a hole in my heart that cannot be filled. Without God there is no peace beyond understanding. Without God love diminishes and that empty space becomes filled with treachery and evil that lurks everywhere to snap you up and eat you alive.

With God, all things are possible.

Therein, I will forgo the second cup of coffee and make my way to my bed and carefully get to my knees. I love to pray with surrender and respect, and when I get on my knees I feel I am honoring God a bit more – though I know He accepts prayers at any time and anywhere. He loves to hear from his children…even if they have yet to learn they are His. Even if they hesitate to use His proper name, as a parent hearing his child say “daddy”, and though he may be far away, the child’s daddy will hear the child’s call.

Love one another. Forgive one another. Love your Creator. Remember these are our tasks. We are not here to judge one another. Ease your mind and let the Spirit fill His home made within our early bodies and mind.

As we think so shall we become.   Mind over matter. Be grateful for each Nano second and waste them not!

You might this this photo isn’t related to this post – and it really isn’t – but I wanted to share something I snapped while out running errands a week or so ago.  These are my favorite type clouds, and for a moment they took me to a dream state of peeking out from between the clouds to check out earth!  I moment of fantasy and pleasure out of no where.  They are abundant – just open your eyes and have a blessed day!

cloudsCulumus clouds                                             Splendid, eh?

 

An Eclectic Post

July 7, 2015

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6 weeks old – Axel Bear

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4 months old – Axel Bear

Cherish your pets. They are gifts to us and are really great friends. They depend upon us. They are precious.

If something breaks don’t sweat it. Material things come and go. Our human counterparts are the “things” we must take care not to break with our words, or our actions.

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Material things can (and usually are) replaceable. Even if they are a cherished item that gets broken – just look in the eyes of the person you are upset with and remember words are like double-edged swords-they go directly to the heart. For women sometimes they remain there for years. It is sad, but true.

Here is the tip for the day. Don’t forget to pierce the potato your are going to bake. Just a few with a fork or small pokes with a paring knife. If you do that your potato won’t blow up! (I forgot!)

potatoPlease say a prayer for those who are homeless because they are just unable to do anything else – no matter what the reason.  If they are on drugs they need prayers.  If they are “takers” they need prayers.  If they have lost everything in a fire or flood – they need prayers.  Be generous with your prayers as we all need them and there is absolutely no charge to pray!  Remember with time and circumstance it could be any one of us in need.  Be grateful for every moment and every thing!

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Create a beautiful day for you and your family and friends. Does anyone remember the song “This little light of mine, I’m gonna let it shine…..”?

We all have that light within. Just prompt it to release in the form of a smile, a kind deed or word, or better yet, a great big hug.

Cherish yourself!  So often it takes years to really learn that one!  Somehow I felt cute as a button a few days ago, so I took my first selfie.  (heeheee ) Felt kind of silly, but I hope you can see the joy in my heart.   1st selfieIt still seems really TOO FUNNY to take and post a photo of myself – but I did it anyway!  Pheww! That’s off my bucket list now.  LOL  I know – must be a pretty dumb bucket list!

I can’t stand it.  I have to tell you.  I stood in front of a fan to have that wind blown look.  I don’t know why it still makes me laugh!  That is the silly child within me.

I send hugs and love and blessings to all my family and friends. I don’t take the time often enough to tell each one of you individually how much I love you – so here it is –

I love you! You KNOW who you are…now let’s have a giant air hug!