Posts Tagged ‘relationships’

I REMEMBER….

January 9, 2018

The difference between positive thoughts and negative ones…is simply a word or two.

Rather than mentioning how much I MISS specific things, as an optimist I will say instead, I have WONDERFUL MEMORIES of things. It is so easy, but we get in the habit of using negative words and phrases, and our minds, being brilliant learning machines, places the words used into thoughts and feelings.

Today I would like to share memories of things I treasure. I will hope and pray that the children of today, though perhaps unable to enjoy the exact memories, will have exceptional memories of their own as they grow into adults.

I remember sitting in a tree when I was eight or so, and I enjoyed the sound of the birds and the big clouds mixing together before a storm. I ate so many tart green apples it did make me ill for a bit – but worth every moment I had sitting in that tree.

I remember how the sound of a train made me feel warm and think of places in the country and the thrill when the engine operator saw me and tooted his long horn. The sound still makes me stop and think….

I remember laying in the grass and listening to silence, while clouds configured into animals and faces, and wonderful things.

I remember riding my bike with my sister to the high school in the evening. There was no fear, no helmet, and no restriction to be home before dark. We dropped our bikes and changed into swimsuits and jumped into the pool. I loved to do a headstand in the water – legs straight as a board.

I remember walking on a downed tree with my cousin on the end of it, pushing it up and down to see if he could shake me off. We laughed and smiled and then went fishing on the river in Kings Canyon.

I remember seeing so many butterflies when the flowers came into bloom. A butterfly would flutter by…The bees came round too when the flowers were in bloom, another memory of joy.

I remember going to a camp where my brother and sister and I floated candles on little lily pads made of cardboard as a show of our faith in Jesus. The lake was brilliant with the light of so many that night.

I remember being scolded at that camp because I let a boy kiss me lightly on the lips. It is not the scolding that brings a fond memory, but because I liked the boy – it was the kiss!

I remember always, with my family, sharing laughter and song. Often we broke into song for no particular reason. We still do.

I am joyful and grateful I was born with something inside my heart than always finds a way to smile and be positive. I believe I was born to love, and in turn, I have been given love by so many people along the way.

I remember as a young adult someone told me “I have the cracklings of a healer” – which to me is wonderful. I want others to feel their hearts almost explode with joy, and their bodies and minds to heal..I want them to KNOW and use the power of the Spirit within.

I am living, thirty years now, with a man who kept his promises…and still does.

Fireflies, bonfires, a church bell ringing, children giggling, the feel of a baby laying on your chest-your heartbeat and the infants heartbeat, the dog laying upside down, sleeping and snoring, the unity of loved ones when Spirit leaves a body, the faith that keeps you going even when it seems impossible, the movement of the foot when a piece of music begins and that rhythm awakens the body and prods it to get up and dance just for fun, a sunset on the beach with sand sifting between your toes, the sunrise in the pines when the smell of coffee and the sound of crackling bacon awakens you, the colors as leaves turn from green to red and drop off of the trees, the dogs jumping in a pile of leaves you just raked up, a child’s eyes as he sits up in a bathtub, after showing you he can put his head under water, the parents gathered together to watch the soccer game with the young children beginning to hone skills in physical challenges, the bravery of a young soldier when he comes home with only one leg and works to begin again, holding hands, a good movie that leaves you smiling and feeling elated, the smile of someone you don’t know sitting next to you in stopped traffic, the look someone you love gives you when they shine eyes upon you, and you know they love you, and oh so very much more……all the miracles of the moments, the days, the months, the years.

THIS IS my year of GRATITUDE for all the memories, and all the wonderful moments of life to come – NO MATTER WHAT!

I pray this will be the beginning of a new and beautiful year for you too! REMEMBER there are a few ways to make it happen.
No matter what happens keep in mind you ALWAYS have a choice in how you respond; make it a positive response.
Prayer works so use it. (Even if you question this, try one prayer a day and see what happens!)
Wake up and say, “This is going to be a very good day.” Turn around potentially bad incidents into a learning scenario, and move forward.
Think before you speak. As ye think, so shall ye become.
Be a better listener.
Love one another – and FORGIVE. We all make mistakes.

 

 

 

 

 

Sexual Abuse and the bully

November 28, 2017

MORE SEXUAL TALK!

I don’t give a flying shoe about the hollyweird aspect, or the political scenarios. THIS IS NOT A NEW ISSUE! Sexual advances from most men (not all) have been a part of the world’s problems, since men found their penis and then reached their sexual peak…age eighteen! This is when the testosterone is the highest for most men.

From that point, “its all downhill”. At least that is the physiology of the problem, and the “problem” is overcome by selling pharmaceuticals make billions on enhancing male sexuality.. I think the crux of the problem is the twisted and perverted peak the magazines, television, particularly the internet, has taken many men and women.  Additionally, some men are bullies!

Today, via movies and television, it is presented perfectly normal for a young man and woman to meet, and be attracted, and within hours / or minutes, the couple is pressed up against a wall ripping their clothes off, or jumping in the sack for a short screw (and that is all it is), and then – “bye-bye”.

Sexual relations have been going on since the creation of man, but it seems all the forms of medias, particularly the community of hollyweird, has pushed and endorsed its agenda to make money! Also, if you think about the sexual violence and rapes that are presented to those who use television and or the internet to “relax” after a long day at work, it kind of begins to make sense.  Some people use those medias as actually a representation of learning tools!

The dumbing down of America through technology.  A sad and terrible truism.

Even the Lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community was pushed by Hollyweird as an agenda that they could show in movies and make money! Follow the money.

This “community” is very tiny community percentage wise. The number of all LGBT humans is 3.8 percent of the population of three hundred million in the USA alone.

This figure may be overestimated. I have done my homework on this. There is a larger percentage of citizens who have “experimented” as opposed to being born this way.

Women lead the bisexual march.  I believe magazines started this trend with the “girl on girl” photos in the late fifties and early sixties. But these folks are NOT members of the real LGBT community…The transgender community is extremely rare.
I am NOT blaming men or women for sexual adventures or misadventures, as it may be. I am blaming (and I wish I could specifically name names) those who are pushing towards a society that neither hones men or women. A society that wants the non-gender attitude, and the careless and casual sex “that doesn’t mean anything” – to blossom.

If there are no solid alliances between men and women, there will be no power except factions of groups who stand together to make noise, but vanish into thin air when the media stops focusing on them. People will only have their “peasant” work to do.  I am one of the peasants.

Even those in the higher financial state will honor and respect nothing except the almighty dollar.

The SEXUAL “State of the Union” is pathetic. Confusion among the peasants keeps them down and working….They (the unnamed) creatures are playing gods, and I believe there will be a quiet majority who will at some point, have had enough-more than enough.

A problem here is that CHILDREN are being taught EVERYTHING is okay!
Children are being primed in pre-school and elementary school, INACCURATE AND MISLEADING “facts” . They are being led down a path they don’t even understand as yet.

They are being molded by a group of people who have lost any sense of moral reckoning. A group that only cares about putting children on life-long drugs, doing life-changing surgeries, and changing the attitude of the upcoming generations to accept everything.

Genders / sexual experiments / etc. are something that children (at these ages) do not fully comprehend. They are being led down a path with molding that can screw up their little lives – forever! They are the innocents, and I am mad!

I kind of drifted from the subject of sexual abuse, but like bullying – sexual abuse (from both genders) has been going on for centuries. I do understand that men are the worst offenders, but it is point blank simply because men are aroused by sights and sounds, and it doesn’t take much…Wherein women may be attracted, and sometimes even hot, we don’t have the “trigger point” men naturally have. That is not an excuse. There is no excuse for taking advantage of a situation to gain sexual favors for a favor in return – job security, etc.

There is NOTHING new under the sun! The difference is instead of women “handling the scenario”, they whine and “arouse” a different kind of situation.

I have been accosted – more than once – I spoke up and eye-ball to eye-ball and confronted the problem! I spoke up more than once, and  when I was unable to resolve the problem, I openly went to management. One time that did not work – I packed up and walked out of my position. I had some positions I loved and did not want to have to quit, but waiting forty years to explode – NO WAY!

In my heart, I think these women are frauds. If they didn’t speak up then, even if fearful, they are cowards to say anything today. Forty years is a lot of time to mature and hopefully mend the evil ways that caused the problem initially.

This hollyweird stuff is garbage. Probably these poor excuses for women didn’t speak up because they got the “perks” they shut their mouths for then…..

Women, DON’T BE AFRAID of the consequences if you are molested in any way. Speak up. Either handle it yourself or tell someone else and get help to handle it! All you are doing by being silent is hurting YOU! Be courageous and be an example for other women and girls.

And women, please remember, you are dealing with men whose sexuality is activated at the sight of a beautiful girl walking by or a low cut blouse. No one deserves to be molested or raped – but you don’t hold out a steak to a dog – unless you want him to jump for it.

Just a note. Bullying is the same thing. The thing about a bully is he either try to incite you with words, or by hitting. Try to walk away, but you may have to punch back! Tell someone right away (who cares if you are a tattle tale)  and take care of the situation immediately.

I knew a coward bully, and he would come up to the back of someone and punch them in the head.  Bullies don’t abide by rules.  Bullies have always been around.

Unless YOU take action, the worst repercussion might be when you are met by the bully again, and wind up hurting from another beating. But if you see him or her coming, fight back!  There are no rules for a bully.

Stand up for yourself no matter if it is sexual abuse, or a bully trying to make himself feel better by being a bully!  Someone has probably been sexually abused that person, and more than likely the bully has been bullied!

TAKE a SELF-DEFENSE class. Ask for help in learning to defend yourself. I am not saying you shouldn’t try to walk away from the problem, but if you don’t TAKE CARE OF LIFE’S IMPORTANT situations, WHEN THEY OCCUR, you will find yourself facing the problem again and again!

 

WELCOME and GOOD MORNING

July 28, 2017

Time is of the essence. Perhaps the written record of one lost life saved, is not going to rescue the masses or feed the hungry. I guess you could say the essence of my life has been God and survival. My story spans the lives of many people in the one earthly body. Time took me from one place to another, sometimes by chance, others by choice, and still others by the hand of God and path provided by Jesus Christ. I am still meandering across my destiny….but now the end of the rocky trail is in my sight.

I know having to take pain medication, to maintain a sense of wholeness, is not good for me.
I keep a tight watch so that I take it and it does not take me. I know taking something to sleep through the night takes a toll on my poor brain, but I need to sleep. My dreams may be affected – or perhaps it is the length and breadth of the story of my life invades me while I sleep.

I want to fly again in my dreams. I remember clearly. I know how from simply standing I elevate and then us my arms and body to maneuver…between the buildings, over the pasture, high above the fabric of incidents that weave the human state on this earth today. It will not be forever that I can’t remember how.

As I close my eyes I want to pray the earnest prayer of grateful appreciation to my Master.
I want, as I drift off to sleep to see the road moving as if I were walking, but I am just above walking….the trees change and are thick and exquisite on the sides and I look ahead unable to tell if it is the sun rising or setting. It is just at the point of color and size that it almost tricks the eyes. But I know today the sun sets with a glow that leaves light along the path.

I know it is setting because before the sun rises the birds awaken and sing first a light and breezy good morning, and then a choir to the morning with a multitude of individual, wonderful birds.

Its as if the sinking of the sun is making way for the fullest of moons to peek, almost melding as the sun sinks, the moon rises to light the sky – in the same place and at the same moment.

I am certain there are a plethora of untapped and unseen resources that can be available for us all, but now for only those who are given the eyes to see and the ears to hear.

Be thee careful of thy words. Words can give life and can harm life. Each word has a meaning and before the words are spoken they a formed with thought. Careless words can rip and tear like a madman with the sharpest of knives.

Of course we can heal. We have been given the best of instruments with specific talents given to no other creatures on this planet. But if given a choice I would rather have a physical injury that one offered up by cruel words. After all the years the physical has healed. The wounds inflicted by unworthy words heal the slowest of all, and will leave a tender scar within the heart…for words alert the heart and senses of what is, perhaps, to come. Be thee careful with thy words.

My intent as I began to write this was actually not to post this…ah but why not! There is no reason to stop now. I still have time and am able! Maybe someone will read and enjoy my words as much as I enjoy writing them! I have high hopes.

Have an amazing day. Stop for one moment and hug yourself. Look into a mirror past what you see, and say -“ I love me, I am supposed to love me. I am God’s one of a kind!. I appreciate all I try to do for others. It always feels good, though it seems there is never enough time.” And if no one said “Thank you” remember the good you do enhances YOU and is for
your growth and well-being. They may not have been taught to say thank you, they may not have thought to say thank you, or they may just be little selfish people – I say little intently.
Your heart and kindness is growing as I write – I just know it!

Love and blessings- Remember I mean things when I say or write or pray the words! So again, LOVE and BLESSINGS to you all! Thanks for taking time to be a part of me.

Don’t forget to praise any attempt from someone to do or say “good.”

Thank you!

July 7, 2017

Photograph taken in Corvallis Oregon.  Added just for a reminder that there is still beauty all around us!

fullsizeoutput_5aI am nothing without love, and nothing without my faith of the Unseen Spiritual Power and Creator of it all. His presence is within me, flooding me with a will to live and the power to carry on, no matter what the future appears to be.

He holds me up, pushes me along, and gives me the encouragement to keep trying. I see Jesus struggling along the path, having done nothing but love and enlighten, being tortured as he marched to His grisly end on the planet, for a time.

His time with His creations should have been filled with intense love and trust. That baby boy, to grow to be a man, was filled with curiosity and kindness. He did no wrong to anyone. His faith in His Father was unshaken, and yet He was tortured and ridiculed for never denying his heritage and position as the leader of love and forgiveness.

My time is limited. Just when I feel I am not qualified to even accept the Grace offered as a full bounty, I am reminded by someone I love that I am His child still.

I must move WITH grace, having been given this gift freely. I must accept that because He stills sings in my heart, without me ever touching Him, He touches me, and still moves me to tears because of the thought of His love for me..for all His creations. I must accept that no matter what, He wants me with him forever…and you.

All my flaws, all my insecurities, all the times of strife I let this world almost get the better of me. He has never left my heart and my mind. He stands steadfast with me amidst the horrors of the world and will always be my shield and source.

I am ever grateful for His subtle and enduring love that moves me back to Him again with just mere words. I am forever of His mind and Love, and forgive, even myself, for my sometimes awkward and inept words and ways. For those times I let evil grasp me and fool me.

Once again I am empowered and able to move with grace and beauty. I simply awoke and I am transformed again. Create a beautiful day. Fill it with love and forgiveness. Each moment we are able to forgive and begin again!

We should all love one another, even if just in an act of kindness. Smile for no reason. See the beauty of each individual. Take a breath and believe YOU are able to change your world, and the worlds of those who are a part of you life…even if you simply pass by in the market. You are in charge. Use the innate power that fills the space in your heart saved only for God and Godly things. For heavens sake, and the sake our being – hug someone! I love you.

Marsha

Another Dream

June 10, 2017

Write while its fresh in your mind, write what you dream if you plan to do so. Easy for me as my dreams remain with me for days, weeks, and sometimes years. Often the same characters and the same location. Different scenarios though – although I have wakened and when I again slept gone back to complete or continue a dream.

They are always in color and always memorable in one way or another – very infrequently are they “bad” – though a few nights ago I had one that was, and it was sketchy in my mind the next day.

I share my dreams with my husband, but certain ones like I can only see in my mind…and it would seem confusing if I tried to explain them. My father dreamed every night in his life, as I do. I never sleep without dreaming. My mama never dreamed, nor does my husband…or they don’t remember them.

Night before last my dream was one of those dreams so broken I could not explain it. Last night was a bad dream, but also it ended in a message, I believe.. Not for me, but perhaps someone.
I remember my poor husband (who works so hard, and simply needs a good night sleep – waking me up because I was talking and yelling. He said, “Honey, its only a dream. Wake up.”
He’s done that several times in the last months – had to wake me and assure me. He says I now talk a lot in my dreams.

Confusing to him, but not to me. I needed to write this one down. The initial part of the dream was taken back to times in memory that were difficult and challenging. I dealt with an evil person who deceived me wholly. He was a con artist, and I bought what he was selling….of course you know where this took me! It took me down a path I did not want to be, and part of my life that time was in reality a nightmare.

I won’t go into depth but my education was increased triple fold, and my heart, though nearly broken at times, mended and I grew stronger because of the time. It took a five year bite out of my life, and affected myself and in a part larger group of people than I knew (I am just being honest) – I inadvertently hurt my children and led them down a path of some confusion too. What we sow we reap. A statement much more important than is given credit.

So often my dreams take me to “this part of my life”, because the truth of is, all the good you do in life does not erase or totally mend the pain of errors in major choices. We can only grow and move onward and upward. It did not make me hard against life, I promised God, but it made me resilient, tough, and stronger.

Back to the dream. There was an event that was a major celebration of some sort. It seemed as if it were a gathering of new friends and old friends. I could feel the excitement of camaraderie, and a spirt of anticipation. I think there was music in the distance, but it was unclear what kind.

I saw people drinking too much and bending one another’s ears with embellishments of truth and success. There were smaller groups gathering in quieter discussions. The celebration was outside.

I had come with the con artist, and could not find that evil man who I had been duped by again. He had quietly disappeared. Since the friends were gathered outside, there were small roadways nearby and many cars parked closely. The the moon was in quarters and the stars seemed to explode in color.

Without warning something happened, and this wasn’t clear, but people began screaming and there were injuries and fatalities. ( I am sure this particular incident correlated with what has actually been happening with the recent attacks and innocents dying. We are all affected by that which we see and hear, some more than others.)

I began to yell because I saw someone I cared for unable to recover from the injuries, and I saw this evil man had returned and was arm and arm with someone else! He sneered and looked at me without emotion. At that point I realized the alcohol had taken him and destroyed what little he had initially. He had fooled everyone. I should have known…..but I was once again, in denial. Denial of the truth had become deadly. I had been blinded by sweet words and beautiful lies.

I am not sure what I said or screamed, but at that moment I came alive and saw that which I had been denying for my own justification of circumstances. Mike woke me and took me from the dream momentarily.

How closely this connected today and yesterday in reality…but this was a dream. My mind coming to conclusions and preeminent warnings.

I found myself being directed by a medical professional to wait and then be transported to a home in an older neighborhood that had been turned into a medical facility. There was a pad for the copter to land.

The facility was not for physical injuries, but for STDs that needed to be treated immediately for a woman (or man). Apparently he or she could face potentially life altering / or life-threatening ramifications.

(Let me be clear that I seemed to have been protected in my true reality. The evil person that I had fallen for “could” have passed along many different problems to me because of his unfaithful and bisexual behaviors. I only found this out towards the end of this disastrous time I spent in folly!)

The dream ended with me sitting on a couch in a small room in the home. I was awaiting treatment. There was a large area in the center that was outside, and actually individual rooms around it that made it kind of became a donut shaped facility.

In the dream, as I sat waiting my poor choices flashed in segments before me as I thought of the seeds of evil I had accepted. Without consciously knowing, I had chosen this path. I later realized I justified it because of the wildness and pleasure factors. The alcohol introduced to me during the time had made the whole mess easier to accept. I thought I would never choose that path again. The doctor walked in.

I awoke at 6:30. I thought the last thoughts in the dream were actually my thoughts in that true reality. I realized how fortunate I had been to escape “whole”, and actually to escape at all. By the grace of God I am alive.

I was exhausted and closed my eyes and slept until the dog awoke me at 9AM. The point of sharing this….not sure, but perhaps a reminder to be certain your choices are solid and that you are not justifying your reasoning. You WILL pay for your choices, even many years down the road.

Keep in mind STDs are REAL. Use good judgment because you can loose your life and happiness by subjecting yourself to the “chance” of getting an STD – or pregnant for that matter!
About 70% or more of human beings have herpes gotten from unprotected sex! If you aren’t in that percentage, look up “herpes”…not a joke. I KNOW you have heard of HIV/AIDs.

Holly weird and many of the magazines today seem to promote sex (like it needs any promotion!)…and alcohol. PLEASE be aware much of what you see and hear originate from the aim of making the almighty dollar. The “star” power may say they stand for something, yet they still make movies with rapes, violence, chain smoking and loose morals – like its normal.
They still promote gays and lesbians, bisexuals and transexuals like it is “the common fact” and not a mere .05% of the population!

KEEP YOUR OWN SENSIBILITIES and live a more fulfilled life. Follow no other human being than your own knowledge of what is right and wrong. No one who says “I love you” (and means it) will ask you to change your personal belief system or philosophy about life!  Pick the path you follow….Do not be star-struck and do not be brainwashed!  You CAN BE a shining star….just BE YOURSELF.  That is the best of you.  Stop questioning the fact you have doubts…we all do.  But you are the only one of you in the world!

By the way, all these “stars” and politicians who declare guns should have more restrictions…have armed body guards, live in gated communities, and have no fear of that which the peasants endure. I include myself in this group.

THAT IS IT for now! Live a great life. IT IS ALWAYS YOUR CHOICE…if not in each scenario, in each RESPONSE…absolutely!

Love you!

 

 

 

How to Receive Love – Part 2

June 7, 2017

GOOD MORNING. Today I will finish my 10 thoughts on How to Receive Love!

First, please read yesterdays post and the five initial thoughts the the subject. If you ask what makes me such an authority on the subject I will only say I have received so much love over the years sometimes it is stunning to me.

I have also had the worst times a person can endure and been treated at times, quite poorly.. I won’t go into details, but to me, the past IS the past. We can either learn to survive and thrive, or we can live in the past and wither under its powers. That is the beauty of today. It is a new day. It is a NEW LIFE – one to make with what you dream.

Even if commitments are wearing you thin, and challenges have reached the top of the pendulum, keep in mind – at this point, you can choose either direction – drop to the bottom or rise to the top. (If you aren’t sure what a pendulum is – find out! UNDERSTANDING is a key to receiving love.)

These five I will expound upon but in a shorter version (at least I will attempt shorter – I have been called a word meister, although others are far beyond me there, I do consider myself a life meister…

5. Forgive. If you “need” to forgive in a relationship, then do it…forgive and forget. If you can’t forget – you may as well say farewell instead of torturing yourself and someone else.
6. Be understanding of others. There is always a reason for a frown or nasty attitude. The person may be able to be touched with a smile. There are also those who will continue to be nasty no matter what. If you feel that negative or EVIL, do not stick around and think you can change them. Just be grateful to be free and say a prayer for them.
7. Always be polite and thoughtful. Keep conversation ALIVE. Conversation is a key to a great relationship and deep love. In the end, friendship will outlive everything else.
8. Be flexible – accept people for who they are, don’t get involved to change them!
9. Open your heart to receive love. Don’t boil in a pot of fear from past heart aches. That is the past. If you don’t step up and find YOU – you will not gain your confidence. Remember love YOU. You are unique, one of a kind, a creation of God, and each of us has something very special….dig that out and let your life begin again.
10. FIRST AND MOST IMPORTANT YOU MUST GIVE LOVE – real appreciation for each and every human being you come meet. I am NOT talking about sexual love or appetite….if this is to happen, it will. If not, so what! I am saying find something good about each person, some quality or feature that is theirs and let them know honestly and timely, that you appreciate it. Each of us is individual. There is something amazing in each of us….instead of “judging according to what the “media” standards are, or consensus of one group or another….be your own person and allow your judgment to flow in the way of pulling the good towards you and appreciating instead of immediately “seeing” and thinking you know that person.

We all want love. In order to receive love, we must first “love”…love in the sense of all these ten points, add in your own thoughts, and just accept that if you are positive and keep being the best of you, I promise, some time – someone will gravitate towards you and you will know.

Don’t be anxious. JUST BE! DECIDE TODAY IS GOING TO BE THE BEST EVER. Find the smile,HOPE and get going! Give love and it will come back to you…perhaps not at the moment it is given, but I will stake my life on “this return” – far safer than the stock market or the horse races. Just begin to take life not quite so seriously – have fun, insist on it. All the things we worry about really are silly in the LONG run…each moment CAN glow with the light of love if you start it! Start the flow….so easy to love if you allow yourself!

Even if you don’t believe in the Great Spirit, pretend someone is watching you and wants you to succeed…give it your all. (Of course I KNOW in my heart of hearts this Spirit is available to us all, inbuilt and waiting for activation.) I will always acknowledge, the truth for me is Jesus loved us first. He came to us in a gentle Spirit, a human body, and humbled himself to love us all. How could I not acknowledge my truth when I have the opportunity.

Every time I have ever needed an arm to hold on, a shoulder to cry on, someone to kick me in the fanny to start again – a prayer calling for help was sent from me, and all I had to do was let go of worry and trust I am in good hands!

I want you to have love. You may be loved by someone who admires you and you might not even know it. Don’t get SEX mixed up with LOVE. Of course it can be wonderful, but it is NOT love – it is SEX, mating, pheromones, lots of things…it can be called “making love”, however most people that I have known over a lifetime that actually make love – are those who are together for a long time. For them its not “just” sex…it is “making love” and it gets better and better. Practice makes perfect. That’s all I am saying. 🙂

Addendum: Don’t expect a relationship that is to last, a love that is to last, not to be a challenge at times.

Apply these ten thoughts, get in the habit of it, and the challenges at first -will melt like butter into a flow of life. Lastly never forget to give each other space. Respect that. Respect you may be a “couple” but you are still each an individual with thoughts and dreams. Trust it. Inhale a long and slow breath now (do it 🙂 With your exhalation, let jealousy and insecurities of the past fly from you out the fingertips and into oblivion. You’ll be happy you did. It is a new day! CREATE a great one.

I love you, you human being!

HOW TO RECEIVE LOVE

June 6, 2017

This sounds like a very strange statement. I am not writing about sexual love….for a woman that kind of love can happen at the snap of a finger. For a man, a bit tougher, but the trend has been “if he works it right…”

I am writing about the kind of love that makes it almost humanly impossible to live without. The kind of love that even someone who says, “I don’t need anybody.” will ultimately drive him or her, (if absolutely alone long enough) mad.

The inborn need to receive love is just a part of the living soul and human physiology. In other wards, we are born to need love to fill in one of the empty spaces in our hearts.

You may or may not agree with these statements, but in all my years of writing, I have never written anything but what I know to be truth. Yes, the “truth”, as I know it, might have something to do with what life has given and taken away from me. I understand this.

In my particular case, however, I have while in this tiny body lived through at least one instance of everything you can think of that can happen to a human being. We all have our “crosses to to beard, alluding to Jesus, as he was forced to carry his own cross to his crucifixion.

I hesitate now and realize there are several things I have not had to endure in this life. I am grateful for those nightmares manifesting in my life, and I shall not give them credence. I’ve learned this much. Do not give in to fear of anything, nor be certain the evil will happen to you.

Do not open the door for evil or negative in any manner, and you shall save yourself a life of fear and worry. Draw the positive to you by thought. “As we think, so shall we be….”

Those words mean everything! Thought dreams press us forward, thoughts motivate us and keep us from fear – if we endeavor to keep our thoughts of a higher nature.

In other wards remember that no matter what happens to us, we are always given – one hundred percent of the time – the choice to pick our response. A beautiful way to happiness is to choose the positive road. In EVERY scenario, at some point, you will be able to use what has happened, or is happening, to either learn and grow, or wither and loose the power we have been given…all of us has this power within.

Kind of got off on a side road, but my thoughts are play a part in the adventure of learning to receive love. It is out there and available to us. All of us!

It doesn’t matter who you are, how much you have or don’t have, how you match up to the media’s judgments (meaning internet, magazines, books, television or any avenue of transporting “opinions.” Those written words are also just a compilation of opinions.

Now down to the nitty gritty. Here are ten ways to receive love!

1. You must love you first! Drop all the preconceived notions you’ve heard about you! Dig deeply and find who you really think you are – and / or who you would like to be! It is all based on perception…your own. I can honestly say I have only meant a few “ugly people in my life. Those few people may have been handsome, brilliant, and talented initially. You KNOW my next statement is true: after getting to know that person, depending on their heart and actions, they will either still be as you first saw them, or perhaps even more handsome or lovelier. However if they are horrible people, ugly in nature, do evil things and are arrogant or filled with other negative things, they will become less handsome, less brilliant, and less “everything” as you get to know them. This is a true statement. You know it is. So dig deeply and even if you only find one thing you love about yourself, make it prominent – love it, invest in it, and love yourself. If you can’t love yourself no one else will be able to either!
2.  At first meeting (when appropriate) SMILE. Smile either by getting into the habit or just because you are now happy you love something about yourself…because loving yourself makes you innately feel worthy. So smile, smile, smile. Nothing opens the door to invite love as effectively as turning to meet someone and seeing them wearing a broad and honest smile. Maybe “just because.” I often find myself smiling for no reason in particular. It feels better. Perhaps love your smile! Others will for sure. (I don’t mean looking in a mirror. I believe satan created mirrors and scales! Think about it.) This will draw people towards you.

3. If meeting someone for the first time and a handshake is offered, give a good strong one. Nothing says confidence and personal strength as a sturdy handshake; man or woman. A judgment is made, believe me, by the quality of your handshake. Make it like you sincerely are glad to meet this person. This will draw this person into “your perception.”…a smile means happy, and it can also mean joy for life, a good secret, admiration for the person you share a handshake with, and much more. It is a valuable tool in beginning to receive love
4. Be concise and BRIEF in your statements in that introductory meeting. I write so I usually write a book as opposed to a post. I need to follow this rule myself. Therein, I will finish with number 5 and post and wait until I honestly have the time to finish this comfortably without putting extra pressure on myself knowing I have pressing things to do today. Unless you are brought into the conversation do not offer your life story!
5. Listen. Honestly and thoroughly listen to the person who is speaking. Do not think about what you will say when that person is finished. We all do this once in a while, and some people rarely think about what the other person is saying, and simply think about when they get “stage center” and review their own responses. Be yourself, and let your natural self flourish. Listen. Show interest in the other persons comments and thoughts….you might learn something valuable. Ask. Ask about the person and then listen! Use your memory to remember names (that is important), and the information they are sharing. Honestly, if you really aren’t interested in listening you will never get to know this person and your chances of receiving love are pretty low. Remember. They will appreciate the fact you really cared enough, upon first meeting….and meetings thereafter…to listen and remember. Those are enduring qualities. They nurture seeds of potentially flowering love.

It’s time to tear myself from today’s post and do the things I know I need to do. This is an example of how to love yourself. You will appreciate the fact YOU take care of business! That alone should make you smile. Don’t forget to smile. It is urgent in the quest for real and relationships, friendships, and love.

CREATE a beautiful day. I send my hopes for real blessings for you, and my love!

Tips for a Great Day!

February 24, 2017

These are a few of my favorite things anyone has said to me in my entire life. I have tried to base my actions and my days on these things.

Someone once told me I have the faint cracklings of a healer. I loved that. I would love to heal everything – people, scenarios, reasons for war and discontent, communication between people. I cannot of course – but I can keep trying.

My daughter told me once that I channel what I believe…I channel God. Now I know I have not always, for sure, been a true reflection, but it surely inspired me.

I was told that my presence at that particular time, to that particular person was that of an angel. I have been told that several times, and I loved that to aspire to…Wasn’t that lovely? Of course I know I am not – but I fly in my dreams – and I know I could in this life, if I could just remember how!

My son told me he was sorry for all the times he had been mean to me. I was shocked. I never thought a thing of it because we all have our “growth” spurts, and love is unconditional and forever. He said he guessed he was because all through his life I had always been there – in the good times, and in the very bad times. It touched my heart though love never runs away because of fear or distress.

More than once people have said, “I like your smile. It made me smile.” Cool. Less wrinkles to smile, more fun.

I have had a full life thus far, and though most of it is behind me, I look forward to seeing what is next. I want me to be my best ever. I have learned from a thousand mistakes and poor choices, and from that which was not even my fault.

I prayed for guidance last night and woke up to write. I allow myself an hour to pray, read and write upon waking. It is a delicious time.

I could tell you so many terrible things I remember in my lifetime, but the thing about being human is that if we focus on the GOOD – look upward and move onward – and LEARN, we will blossom like a flower. I’d rather be a flower than a prickly cactus. Smiling is so much easier.

Do something for someone today (something little or big) and don’t tell a soul! It will be tempting to talk about it, but it is so much more exhilarating to have the deed between you and whomever you believe as a creator. The Creator watches.

If you don’t believe in a higher power, then silently think about the deed and be proud of your choice, amidst all the tension and delusion that is happening around the world. It will bring a smile to your face sometime-probably more than once. It’s good to share love.

And if you think of the horrible days and comments made to you, then STOP IT. That was then. You can’t take anything back, so pass the good forward.

This is now. On your mark….get set….go!

 

 

This post is important!

November 29, 2016

I wrote a post of Facebook this morning and I want as many people who happen by to read and share it….Marsha J. O’Brien

BE SAFE!  KEEP your families, self, and friends AWARE………In Ca. with AB109, Proposition 57 passing, and such poverty and need – it will not get easier.  BE PREPARED!

 


 

 

A Couple of Relationship Tips for Men and Women

October 23, 2013

I’ve had good relationships, and relationships from hell!  My husband and I are still in love (a great relationship) after twenty-five years. M&M Christmas 2010

By the way…since this photo my husband and I have both lost weight, therein our double chins!  We are on a mission, together, to NOT GET THINNER, but to get HEALTHIER.  Much easier when you work as a team.  My vanity (what I have left) made me tell you this!

So here are a couple of tips I wanted to share.
They are valuable, and I care!My husband and I have been married VERY happily for twenty-five years.  Part of the reason is communication.  Not just that either of us talks – but we LISTEN to each other, and actually are open enough to assimilate shared thoughts.

Here is a tip for you guys.  WATCH your words to your lady, wife, girlfriend, guy friend, partner – whom ever you are in a relationship with, and one that you want to last.

Women (and I truly don’t know if gay men think in these terms, so you’ll have to know your mate to decide) LISTEN TO EVERY WORD THAT COMES OUT OF YOUR MOUTH.  They don’t just listen.  They REMEMBER.  Even if you immediately say

“Sorry” or “Didn’t mean it”, whatever – it stays with women for a long, long time.

You know you don’t want your words imprinted on her heart, or dissected like a frog in a lab, or worse yet, thrown in your face a thousand times.  We can’t help it.  We listen, and most of us have just a tad or jealousy, or perhaps insecurity, so we tend to believe what you say.

That’s why women are said to “hear what they want to hear”.  Women can be gullible too.  That’s why some con artists are able to worm their slimy way into a woman’s heart.

It’s as simple as that.  REALLY.  THINK before you speak, and no matter how difficult it may be at first, WATCH YOUR WORDS…particularly if you love this person!

You do not want to scar her heart.  You do not want to wind up saying, “Oh I knew you’d bring this up again, and again, and again. 

Just pick your words as you would pick a weapon.  Make them appropriate and use them with decorum.  Just get it the habit and you will reap the rewards!

Here is a tip for you gals.  When your dispute is over, DROP IT!  Goes back to that elephant like memory we have sometimes.  DROP IT.  Get over it.  Let it RIP.

A guy hates to munch on what is in the past, and for a guy, when the dispute is over – it is OVER!  Let it go.  You are not only “bringing up the past” (even if it was just solved), but you are racking your relationship over hot coals.  It doesn’t prove anything or make you the winner if you can’t “get on with your life”.  It makes you waste any chance you have to really start working on your relationship in the current state.

Besides, if YOU don’t let it go, long past the fight, long past the time of dissention, YOU will be the one who is suffering.  Guys really do let it go, and move on.  My husband taught me that, and it is a lesson that has been invaluable in moving forward.————————————————-So CREATE a GREAT relationship.  Just practice these simple tips in your relationship and you will see WONDERFUL results.  Just get in the habit of saying and dong what is right, in these two instances, and you may be headed towards peace and good communication…. and communication is everything in a relationship!  Have a beautiful day.

BTW, if my posts are not “beautiful” it’s because after over 500 posts, I am still an internet “visual” baby!  I just hope the words are beautiful for you!  Now get to it.  Smile and go hug somebody (well, somebody you won’t get in trouble for hugging!)