Posts Tagged ‘relationships’

Tips for a Great Day!

February 24, 2017

These are a few of my favorite things anyone has said to me in my entire life. I have tried to base my actions and my days on these things.

Someone once told me I have the faint cracklings of a healer. I loved that. I would love to heal everything – people, scenarios, reasons for war and discontent, communication between people. I cannot of course – but I can keep trying.

My daughter told me once that I channel what I believe…I channel God. Now I know I have not always, for sure, been a true reflection, but it surely inspired me.

I was told that my presence at that particular time, to that particular person was that of an angel. I have been told that several times, and I loved that to aspire to…Wasn’t that lovely? Of course I know I am not – but I fly in my dreams – and I know I could in this life, if I could just remember how!

My son told me he was sorry for all the times he had been mean to me. I was shocked. I never thought a thing of it because we all have our “growth” spurts, and love is unconditional and forever. He said he guessed he was because all through his life I had always been there – in the good times, and in the very bad times. It touched my heart though love never runs away because of fear or distress.

More than once people have said, “I like your smile. It made me smile.” Cool. Less wrinkles to smile, more fun.

I have had a full life thus far, and though most of it is behind me, I look forward to seeing what is next. I want me to be my best ever. I have learned from a thousand mistakes and poor choices, and from that which was not even my fault.

I prayed for guidance last night and woke up to write. I allow myself an hour to pray, read and write upon waking. It is a delicious time.

I could tell you so many terrible things I remember in my lifetime, but the thing about being human is that if we focus on the GOOD – look upward and move onward – and LEARN, we will blossom like a flower. I’d rather be a flower than a prickly cactus. Smiling is so much easier.

Do something for someone today (something little or big) and don’t tell a soul! It will be tempting to talk about it, but it is so much more exhilarating to have the deed between you and whomever you believe as a creator. The Creator watches.

If you don’t believe in a higher power, then silently think about the deed and be proud of your choice, amidst all the tension and delusion that is happening around the world. It will bring a smile to your face sometime-probably more than once. It’s good to share love.

And if you think of the horrible days and comments made to you, then STOP IT. That was then. You can’t take anything back, so pass the good forward.

This is now. On your mark….get set….go!

 

 

This post is important!

November 29, 2016

I wrote a post of Facebook this morning and I want as many people who happen by to read and share it….Marsha J. O’Brien

BE SAFE!  KEEP your families, self, and friends AWARE………In Ca. with AB109, Proposition 57 passing, and such poverty and need – it will not get easier.  BE PREPARED!

 


 

 

A Couple of Relationship Tips for Men and Women

October 23, 2013

I’ve had good relationships, and relationships from hell!  My husband and I are still in love (a great relationship) after twenty-five years. M&M Christmas 2010

By the way…since this photo my husband and I have both lost weight, therein our double chins!  We are on a mission, together, to NOT GET THINNER, but to get HEALTHIER.  Much easier when you work as a team.  My vanity (what I have left) made me tell you this!

So here are a couple of tips I wanted to share.
They are valuable, and I care!My husband and I have been married VERY happily for twenty-five years.  Part of the reason is communication.  Not just that either of us talks – but we LISTEN to each other, and actually are open enough to assimilate shared thoughts.

Here is a tip for you guys.  WATCH your words to your lady, wife, girlfriend, guy friend, partner – whom ever you are in a relationship with, and one that you want to last.

Women (and I truly don’t know if gay men think in these terms, so you’ll have to know your mate to decide) LISTEN TO EVERY WORD THAT COMES OUT OF YOUR MOUTH.  They don’t just listen.  They REMEMBER.  Even if you immediately say

“Sorry” or “Didn’t mean it”, whatever – it stays with women for a long, long time.

You know you don’t want your words imprinted on her heart, or dissected like a frog in a lab, or worse yet, thrown in your face a thousand times.  We can’t help it.  We listen, and most of us have just a tad or jealousy, or perhaps insecurity, so we tend to believe what you say.

That’s why women are said to “hear what they want to hear”.  Women can be gullible too.  That’s why some con artists are able to worm their slimy way into a woman’s heart.

It’s as simple as that.  REALLY.  THINK before you speak, and no matter how difficult it may be at first, WATCH YOUR WORDS…particularly if you love this person!

You do not want to scar her heart.  You do not want to wind up saying, “Oh I knew you’d bring this up again, and again, and again. 

Just pick your words as you would pick a weapon.  Make them appropriate and use them with decorum.  Just get it the habit and you will reap the rewards!

Here is a tip for you gals.  When your dispute is over, DROP IT!  Goes back to that elephant like memory we have sometimes.  DROP IT.  Get over it.  Let it RIP.

A guy hates to munch on what is in the past, and for a guy, when the dispute is over – it is OVER!  Let it go.  You are not only “bringing up the past” (even if it was just solved), but you are racking your relationship over hot coals.  It doesn’t prove anything or make you the winner if you can’t “get on with your life”.  It makes you waste any chance you have to really start working on your relationship in the current state.

Besides, if YOU don’t let it go, long past the fight, long past the time of dissention, YOU will be the one who is suffering.  Guys really do let it go, and move on.  My husband taught me that, and it is a lesson that has been invaluable in moving forward.————————————————-So CREATE a GREAT relationship.  Just practice these simple tips in your relationship and you will see WONDERFUL results.  Just get in the habit of saying and dong what is right, in these two instances, and you may be headed towards peace and good communication…. and communication is everything in a relationship!  Have a beautiful day.

BTW, if my posts are not “beautiful” it’s because after over 500 posts, I am still an internet “visual” baby!  I just hope the words are beautiful for you!  Now get to it.  Smile and go hug somebody (well, somebody you won’t get in trouble for hugging!)

 

 

The Dream

November 16, 2011

I awoke from a dream three minutes ago and felt compelled to write it down. It’s 6:50 AM. It could have been today’s reality; it was such an intense dream. It will stay with me, again, for a long while. Maybe you’ve been there.

I was thirty-five years younger, and I was meeting friends and other couples to go on a bus trip. I was with the man I had just married.

He was a con artist but that was not something I could not see at the time. Every one told me not to marry him, but how could I have known? Oh yes, the little voice from within told me not to do it, but I met him and fell into his arms…hurt from a failed marriage, with a man who never got close to me except to have two children.

I was hungry for “LOVE and affection”. I needed a DREAM.

My dream of being in love and having the perfect family had been
dashed, ending with my husband having a blatant affair, and refusing to give it up, even after counseling.

This man knew who and what he wanted, and what he wanted was me. He wanted all of me. He wanted my joy, my happiness, my beautiful children and home, my sex, my money – he wanted everything.

I immersed my true spirit with a cup of alcohol, which I thought relaxed me – then added a dash of pot, and with that managed to fool myself into just WHO he really was. I NEEDED that dream.

Anyway, we were on the bus and he stepped off for a few, with some of the other guys, and when he came back, he was totally someone else. He was angry. He moved away from me, and I wasn’t sure why. Everyone on the bus was shocked.

They were in the same dream as I was, and were deluded in their lives.

By then I knew he was drunk. I didn’t know what else he’d done, I assumed crank or pot, or another woman, but he was DIFFERENT. He was indifferent to me, and mad at me and began to show another self.

He flirted for a brief moment with a friend, and then I saw he was
almost laying on the floor, insecure, and obviously not the man I thought I knew.

I told one of the girls “I knew I shouldn’t have married him”, and he heard me and wreathed upright and said, “What did you say?”
The venom almost dripped from his mouth like a mad dog.

He was angry again. Strangely, I felt compassion for him.

I awoke. The dream seemed to last the night. I was startled. That dream was my reality thirty-five years ago, and it still haunts me in my sleep.

I have since forgiven myself, but it took almost twenty-five years to do that, and I still ask God for forgiveness for the horror my children saw, and perhaps the mistakes they are making because of it………

Children don’t learn from words. They learn from what they see and hear.

I am listening to my heart and the holy voice from within these days. I knew I must write this down to share. I prayed several days ago for the motivation and inspiration to once write again.

Yesterday I had a better dream. It was about a holy kiss. I knew I was supposed to write that too, but I “put it off” to take care of catching up from a trip. I will not do that again. When I am given inspiration, I will share it in the hope it will be inspiring to someone and that I will be sharing the love and hope I’ve been given.

A Holy Kiss will be written later today. CREATE your life in reality and with intellect and a fair helping of emotion. Depend on
God and don’t give up!