Posts Tagged ‘seniors’

GETTING OLDER

March 13, 2017

Whoever coined the phrases “growing old gracefully” and “the golden years” should be strung up on the nearest tree!

I don’t know how you grow old gracefully when your body becomes less agile and your ability to stretch is limited because you are afraid you’ll “snap” like an old rubber band.

I have no idea if those years are golden as my eyesight is not as good as it once was, and the insurance I paid into all my life doesn’t cover glasses or teeth (and those are the first things to go!) That’s Medicare of course.

Somehow in my education I didn’t realize-but you’d better- over a hundred dollars will be deducted for part B, before you even get social security. Then of course you have to pay for a supplement each month because Medicare doesn’t cover everything. The tricky part is if Medicare won’t cover any part of a procedure; neither will the supplement you are paying for -to the tune of over $150. a month ( and that is considered cheap if you can find one for that low price.) However, if you break your back (like I did) a good plan will keep you from loosing everything because there will be no cost to you except the monthly payment.

By the way, once you apply for Medicare you get a non-stop snail mail box full of “life insurance applications for your family to have, and burial insurance so they won’t suffer from the cost when you croak. I mean it is non-stop. Thanks for reminding my life of this planet will soon be over. Didn’t have enough to think about!

I plan to be “taken care of” the cheapest way possible. – Burn baby burn. I won’t take up precious space on this planet to plant my body and have people come there to tearfully remember me. I would rather plant flowers there! Also, in my world to come, I trust God will know how to fix everything my poor body has suffered in this lifetime.

After so many years the body just starts to kind of give out, and you never know when or where it will happen. After the first injury or accident then everyone is afraid to let you do anything because you may fall again. (For me, specifically, my broken back). I don’t know if that’s because they worry about you, or because they don’t want to have to take care of you again….

No worries. I swear you’ll never hear “I’ve fallen and I can’t get up” come from my mouth! Older people are usually spoken of as the butt of jokes. The ironic thing is one day those folks will be the butt of the jokes-for now they are just butts!

Heaven forbid you want to do something really fun — “It’s not a good idea.” “It’s too dangerous”. If I weren’t happily married I’d go out and have unprotected sex just for the danger factor. (NOT REALLY)

“It’s not a good idea to go barefooted.” “You’d better not get a dog.” “Watch what you eat.” “Etc, etc. etc.

Kill me now.

If you find you have to use a walker, you will also discover the most humbling time of your life. We take walking for granted, like breathing, until we can’t. Never take one of these gifts for granted. But if you wind up on a walker, be grateful for it, and make sure you have a phone attached, and a basket so you can function at least minimally!

When you find you need to use a cane because some uncaring medical people left you out in the cold until you are in permanent disrepair, don’t worry about accidentally forgetting it…everyone will remind you that you need to take the cane.

The baggers at the grocery store begin to call you ma’am, and ask if you need help carrying one bag to the car. Don’t be foolish, take the help and save your energy for fun. Besides you will have conversations with many people who help you, and sometimes be grateful for the communication. Teenagers look at you like you have already died, and of course lost your mind way before that!

When you hear a whistle you know it’s just some older person grasping at the talent of whistling. “Whistling” – a talent once appreciated – long ago!. You know it’s not a “whistle” meant for you because you are so sexy and have such a stunning figure. I still am cute as a button though. I keep reminding my husband of that, planting a gentle seed.

Everything drops. What they don’t tell you if your feet get bigger too, and all the hair that used to grow on your legs just grows on your face now!

I don’t feel guilty about not being Martha Stewart in the housekeeping department, I will go outside and sit in the sun (still with book in hand) and read to my heart’s content. With my glasses off my home is perfectly dust free. With your husbands glasses off your wrinkles will hardly be noticeable.

What is “grandma in a box”? Well it’s not a coffin I’ll tell you that! I was going to wrap me in a box in birthday paper and surprise my granddaughter for her birthday. With my luck I probably would have suffocated and surprised her with grandma falling to the floor dead! Not a good surprise. Either that or be so stiff I would be permanently unable to move from being stuffed in the box.

When you turn 65 – face it – you may still feel 45 in your mind – but the REAL prejudice is against those of us who live long enough to be known as “the old folks, old people, our elderly, the over the hill gang, seniors (say isn’t a senior in high school or college someone to be looked up to and revered?)

I could write a book about it all, but just to let you know – my wits are about me! My memory is as sharp as ever. I am still the captain of my ship and God the Master of my mind. I really am still “too sexy for my shirt”, and my cane doubles as a weapon so that if anyone pulls any crap on me I can beat them to death with it – and I wouldn’t hesitate.

I don’t hold back and just “be nice” – IF someone deserves to be told off I will do it with wit and class – but I will do it. I don’t hold anything inside. I dress exactly the way I want to, and love the freedom.

When no one is looking (ha ha) I will do what I damn please and take any risk I opt to…why not? There isn’t too much I haven’t done in my life (a lot I wish I hadn’t done), and what the heck is the difference. It could kill me?

No one knows when they are through with being on this earth – at best my life is less than two decades, and so if you see me flying through the air with some young stud attached to my back, don’t be surprised!

I probably will be holding tight to my husband, whom I still adore, sitting behind him on his Harley, going a 100 miles an -hour down some back road!

Life doesn’t have to be over just because you have aged like a fine, fine wine! Or better yet in my case, an aged bottle of good whiskey! One that gives warmth to your innards, and a glow on your cheeks.

Keep your sense of humor. If you’ve lost it, find it and right away before you forget what you are looking for…..and smile!

A bunch of naked ladies and a stitch in time.

April 22, 2015

A blunch of naked ladies

Sorry a bit fuzzy – but you get the idea.

Yes they flowers are called naked ladies!  Did I trick you?

They are called that because they have no leaves or branches – they simply grow flowers.  Cool, eh?

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This is kind of sad.  stitchMy wrist had to have surgery because I broke it in 2011.  Sad because our medical folks are becoming careless.  Maybe they always were.

The last few weeks I noticed some pain and a strange ball in the area of the surgery.  It kept getting more painful and bigger. I asked my husband to take a needle and open it up.  Of course he did, and guess what…..it was a stitch the doctor had forgotten / or missed taking out. It was a little over a quarter inch.  It had been working it’s way to the surface!

My wrist feels fine now.  And that’s my post for the day!  Have a beautiful day – IT IS YOUR CHOICE!  God bless.

Brad Culpepper – Insurance fraud or not?

February 5, 2015

Brad Culpepper, an Ex-NFL player has been accused of insurance fraud!

His case is really a complex one.
I HAVE to take strong pain medication for my injuries and two neurosurgeries that followed – JUST TO allow me to FUNCTION “almost normally”.

Because you can look at someone and see him or her act normally – at least in your visual perception – it does NOT me that person is without injuries or pain! If you saw his intrview he did take off his shirt and show two of the injuries.

I think most insurance companies are a total rip-off anyway. You have homeowners IN CASE something horrible happens and you need help. You have car insurance IN CASE you are in an accident. You have medical and dental insurance IN CASE you need work done on your body or teeth. You have life insurance for years, JUST IN CASE you die unexpectedly. It’s all pretty morbid.

Something many people don’t know is that most term life insurance policies (ones you think will leave your loved ones monetarily set) raise their premiums after ten years of you paying premiums. Most people don’t pay too much attention to paperwork, and my friend didn’t either. After ten years of paying a policy on her husband they upped the payments so high she could not afford to pay premiums, so she cancelled. Her husband died from a heart attack shortly thereafter.

There is a way to keep that from happening. IF YOUR COMPANY WILL DO IT, change that term life policy / or whole life, to “universal life policy” and you may pay a bit more each premium, but the payments will NEVER go up, and the payout is guaranteed the same!

Back to the subject matter! If I had published this yesterday I would have said the insurance company is full of garbage. Now I am sitting on the fence.

I do know when severely injured, pain and even some disabilites can be OVERWHELMNG. I am a Christian so suicide is out of the question – but there were more times than a “few” I really thought I wished I could kill myself. I am over that now with lots of prayers, ( a wonderful God), TIME (an inordinant amount of time), AND pain meds to get managing my pain so I can function and have a little life.

Even with pain meds I still deal with severe nerve pain and “other invisible problems.” I taught fitness for years, but I never thought of the nerves in the body until mine were damaged and some even killed!

As I wrote, some of my disabilities are visible. I have to use a cane. MANY more are invisible to the naked eye. I understand people looking at someone with those invisible disabilities and on pain meds, and think “they aren’t disabled at all!” BS.

DO NOT JUDGE SOMEONE because they are strong enough mentally and physically to “look” like they are fully functional and capable. Would you rather have them whine and cry and be intrusive to YOUR feeling good. You have a right to feel good. I am not going to wear a sign with specifics about my disability and pain.

Good for Brad in continuing his life. That being said, I read that he began mixed martial arts before receiving a settlement of $175,000.00. That is a difficult sport, unless perhaps, he was participating in a very modified program. That is possible. Perhaps in being active and accepting “limits” he helped his body to heal even more in time. That is possible too.

Here is where I stand on this particular subject. I am no one’s judge. No one can jump in my body and feel my pain, nor my motivation to work through constant pain.

Although a part of me says, I am glad he got a settlement. I saw his visible injuries, and he was obviously disabled in some ways, maybe many. I personally know MENTAL injury can take a constant toll on one’s life!

Insurance companies get their money regardless – unless the horrific happens. If he were taking a monthly disability year after year after year, like SO MANY FLAKES and FAKERS do, it would be different. He took a settlement. Perhaps then his tenacious spirit healed him further mentally and physically. I like to think in positive terms. Good for him! At least someone with a history of working and real injuries got something!!!

I find it disgusting that a man with REAL and PERMANENT injuries takes a settlement, agreed upon by the insurance company and himself. and then in their eyes- he should not get better. If he heals any more he is a faker. The healing must stop. Certainly if he is able to participate, working through the incredible pain, and taking heavy duty pain pills, it means he wasn’t really hurt. Come on.

I hope I am right, but again, I am no one’s judge on this planet earth. It is up to each individual how he or she lives life! If you are truthful then you cannot be caught in a lie. If you are honorable your character will excel and the person you are will blossom into something wonderful! If you LOVE, you cannot go wrong!

Have a stellar day. We all have the power to choose how our day unwinds. We have, at least, the power to respond to each thing that happens to us, and that is 100% all the time. I choose onward and upward!

Good Day!

April 16, 2014

I fell yesterday.  My feet did something out of my control and down I went.  The tile is hard, but at least I was able to hit with less impact than if I were unable to think!  I laid there and didn’t move for a bit.  I burst into tears and they fell until I had lines of tears across my face.  Then I turned, got up and got the ice.  I rested on it for thirty minutes or so, and then continued making dinner.

I wasn’t happy, but I was able to get up and I knew I would just be sore in the morning.

This morning I awoke and opened the door to let my dog out to say good morning to the world.

I looked and the trees moved gently swaying to the rhythm of the wind. The cross between the chil of winter and the entry of mild spring days made the air perfect and I felt grateful still. The fragrance of the orange blossoms is lush and soft to inhale.

Glass chimes welcomed the breeze and ever so gently they swayed with the new green dotted across the yard. Even the wild weeds were graced with flowers and had a place of beauty and importance in my view.

An orchestra of birds sang a song of newly found places to build their nests. I am seeing through the eyes of the child still within me. Though I have seen it many times, I cannot crease to find the beauty of what I see so intense.   I want to run and lay in the grass and look into the trees from a different view.

I thank God for every little leaf and flower, for the mocking bird, who is not mocking – but singing the song of every one of his neighbors. He sits and proudly fills the air with music. Every once in a while a burst of wind comes, and the rhythm of the branches and the sound of invisible wafts of wind fill the air. It seems the birds stop to listen too.

I may never climb a tree again, or stand at the top of a peak with arms out praising God for His majestic gift of this world. I may never run in the sand and pull a kite behind me, with the longest tail I can make. I may never again spin in circles and move across the floor with grace and elegance.

But I can IMAGINE. I can remember. I can still see and hear. I can still raise my hands and thank my God for all the beauty within my very reach. I can still raise my voice and sing my song of words.

And who knows. I believe in miracles. If I can just remember how – I may fly again!

I would like to thank you all who have been with me since I began this adventure so long ago. I particularly would like to thank my family in India for the prayers, and thoughts, and constant support. It is still, even though I am no longer physically one hundred percent – a wonderful world, and a beautiful day! I will walk with my ever so wobbly gait and use my legs to celebrate for someone without legs; I will be grateful. I will never sour, nor be hard of heart, and I will love, love, love, as long as I am able!

Here is what I really enjoy about getting older

August 9, 2013

 

1.  When I feel some detachment to something – it is not indifference.  It means I have lived and suffered, and having suffered, I can draw back and see with my heart – not raw emotions.

2.  I can be honest and not play “games” any more because I know honesty is always the best response.  You can never get caught when you are honest.

3.  My tongue is my sword, and I have a well-honed blade that cuts with love.

4.  Because I am true to myself, others resonate with it, and I ring a tone of truth in peace.

5.  I have nothing to loose, but much to share with whomever chooses to ask or listen.  I will not volunteer to speak unless it is a matter of life and death; otherwise I wait to be invited.

6.  My personal demands are no longer of great importance.  As long as I keep my attitude positive and my heart true, whatever I need comes to me.

7.  My faith is enriched and I truly do hand my problems to the Lord in prayer – and then release them to show my faith.

8.  I have no reason to try to persuade anyone of anything.  I am happy in who I am, and only want to share love, understanding and joy.

9.  I have seen enough to separate irrelevance from essence.  I have neither the time nor the energy to wast on superficialities.

10. I do not seek to usurp power from anyone.  I have unlimited resources from within and I know it.

11.  I do not envy anyone of anything.  I enjoy others success vicariously, and applaud their luck and efforts.

12. I take most of life with a grain of salt, as it truly is a divine comedy, if we see it as such.  As mama said, “the party was going long before I arrived and will be going long after I leave.  I will just enjoy it.  The most important legacy you can leave is the legacy of love, and faith in the fact our Great Spirit loves us each individually.”

 Lastly, I am grateful for a mind that is still sharp, an enduring and healing body, and the love that people share with me.

Create a wonderful weekend and know you are worth loving…you are perfect just as God created you – accept you as you would others.  I truly care!

Cough it up! Let’s See a Smile

May 28, 2013

Hey, if I can do it, you can.  Been out and about for a month (emergency room, hospitals, etc.)so I haven’t been writing regularly.  Hope to do so now.  Since I have to learn to walk all over again, I think I may have time to plunk the keys of the computer a bit more regularly.

I hope you all are remembering that there is no guarantee in life.  Just when you think everything is perfect (or a big mess) – everything changes.  Be grateful for all the big and little moments that are wonderful!  Evaluate what is really worth getting upset, fearful or angry about, and then toss them in the trash can – mostly!  CHOOSE happiness.  I am going to even though my wonderful little life has turned totally upside down.  I get to create a new life.

I also am not just forgetting that my disabilities right now affect others too – my husband, my family, etc.  I will forge ahead and work to create this new life into a positive and loving one.

Hug someone right now.  Jump up and down for me.  I will think of you all and prayers will be coming your way.  If you would say a prayer or two for me, I will feel it, and thank you now.

God bless you and all your loved ones and families and friends!  More soon.