Posts Tagged ‘sex’

Sexual Abuse and the bully

November 28, 2017

MORE SEXUAL TALK!

I don’t give a flying shoe about the hollyweird aspect, or the political scenarios. THIS IS NOT A NEW ISSUE! Sexual advances from most men (not all) have been a part of the world’s problems, since men found their penis and then reached their sexual peak…age eighteen! This is when the testosterone is the highest for most men.

From that point, “its all downhill”. At least that is the physiology of the problem, and the “problem” is overcome by selling pharmaceuticals make billions on enhancing male sexuality.. I think the crux of the problem is the twisted and perverted peak the magazines, television, particularly the internet, has taken many men and women.  Additionally, some men are bullies!

Today, via movies and television, it is presented perfectly normal for a young man and woman to meet, and be attracted, and within hours / or minutes, the couple is pressed up against a wall ripping their clothes off, or jumping in the sack for a short screw (and that is all it is), and then – “bye-bye”.

Sexual relations have been going on since the creation of man, but it seems all the forms of medias, particularly the community of hollyweird, has pushed and endorsed its agenda to make money! Also, if you think about the sexual violence and rapes that are presented to those who use television and or the internet to “relax” after a long day at work, it kind of begins to make sense.  Some people use those medias as actually a representation of learning tools!

The dumbing down of America through technology.  A sad and terrible truism.

Even the Lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community was pushed by Hollyweird as an agenda that they could show in movies and make money! Follow the money.

This “community” is very tiny community percentage wise. The number of all LGBT humans is 3.8 percent of the population of three hundred million in the USA alone.

This figure may be overestimated. I have done my homework on this. There is a larger percentage of citizens who have “experimented” as opposed to being born this way.

Women lead the bisexual march.  I believe magazines started this trend with the “girl on girl” photos in the late fifties and early sixties. But these folks are NOT members of the real LGBT community…The transgender community is extremely rare.
I am NOT blaming men or women for sexual adventures or misadventures, as it may be. I am blaming (and I wish I could specifically name names) those who are pushing towards a society that neither hones men or women. A society that wants the non-gender attitude, and the careless and casual sex “that doesn’t mean anything” – to blossom.

If there are no solid alliances between men and women, there will be no power except factions of groups who stand together to make noise, but vanish into thin air when the media stops focusing on them. People will only have their “peasant” work to do.  I am one of the peasants.

Even those in the higher financial state will honor and respect nothing except the almighty dollar.

The SEXUAL “State of the Union” is pathetic. Confusion among the peasants keeps them down and working….They (the unnamed) creatures are playing gods, and I believe there will be a quiet majority who will at some point, have had enough-more than enough.

A problem here is that CHILDREN are being taught EVERYTHING is okay!
Children are being primed in pre-school and elementary school, INACCURATE AND MISLEADING “facts” . They are being led down a path they don’t even understand as yet.

They are being molded by a group of people who have lost any sense of moral reckoning. A group that only cares about putting children on life-long drugs, doing life-changing surgeries, and changing the attitude of the upcoming generations to accept everything.

Genders / sexual experiments / etc. are something that children (at these ages) do not fully comprehend. They are being led down a path with molding that can screw up their little lives – forever! They are the innocents, and I am mad!

I kind of drifted from the subject of sexual abuse, but like bullying – sexual abuse (from both genders) has been going on for centuries. I do understand that men are the worst offenders, but it is point blank simply because men are aroused by sights and sounds, and it doesn’t take much…Wherein women may be attracted, and sometimes even hot, we don’t have the “trigger point” men naturally have. That is not an excuse. There is no excuse for taking advantage of a situation to gain sexual favors for a favor in return – job security, etc.

There is NOTHING new under the sun! The difference is instead of women “handling the scenario”, they whine and “arouse” a different kind of situation.

I have been accosted – more than once – I spoke up and eye-ball to eye-ball and confronted the problem! I spoke up more than once, and  when I was unable to resolve the problem, I openly went to management. One time that did not work – I packed up and walked out of my position. I had some positions I loved and did not want to have to quit, but waiting forty years to explode – NO WAY!

In my heart, I think these women are frauds. If they didn’t speak up then, even if fearful, they are cowards to say anything today. Forty years is a lot of time to mature and hopefully mend the evil ways that caused the problem initially.

This hollyweird stuff is garbage. Probably these poor excuses for women didn’t speak up because they got the “perks” they shut their mouths for then…..

Women, DON’T BE AFRAID of the consequences if you are molested in any way. Speak up. Either handle it yourself or tell someone else and get help to handle it! All you are doing by being silent is hurting YOU! Be courageous and be an example for other women and girls.

And women, please remember, you are dealing with men whose sexuality is activated at the sight of a beautiful girl walking by or a low cut blouse. No one deserves to be molested or raped – but you don’t hold out a steak to a dog – unless you want him to jump for it.

Just a note. Bullying is the same thing. The thing about a bully is he either try to incite you with words, or by hitting. Try to walk away, but you may have to punch back! Tell someone right away (who cares if you are a tattle tale)  and take care of the situation immediately.

I knew a coward bully, and he would come up to the back of someone and punch them in the head.  Bullies don’t abide by rules.  Bullies have always been around.

Unless YOU take action, the worst repercussion might be when you are met by the bully again, and wind up hurting from another beating. But if you see him or her coming, fight back!  There are no rules for a bully.

Stand up for yourself no matter if it is sexual abuse, or a bully trying to make himself feel better by being a bully!  Someone has probably been sexually abused that person, and more than likely the bully has been bullied!

TAKE a SELF-DEFENSE class. Ask for help in learning to defend yourself. I am not saying you shouldn’t try to walk away from the problem, but if you don’t TAKE CARE OF LIFE’S IMPORTANT situations, WHEN THEY OCCUR, you will find yourself facing the problem again and again!

 

Are you a boy? A girl? or a third gender… a “non-binary gender”?

October 24, 2017

We have been “primed” to be tolerant towards those holding “other opinions” regarding personal makeup as a human. “Don’t be a bigot”.

We have been forced to accept that which goes against our own personal beliefs, in the name of understanding. For instance the plight of all homeless and former prisoners. “Its not their faults. They need help.”

If we hesitate to accept the things pushing us together for a different agenda, we are guilted, blamed, punished, condemned and told we think we are better than others!

The governor of California has gone too far this time…at least for me. I try to listen and be open to the stories of those who are lesbian, gay, and transgender. Though I know (I have done the homework) that the percentage of lesbian, gay, and transgender people is minuscule in comparison with the entire population of citizens of the USA….Just a tad over 3.5 % (11,270,000 )in a population of 322 million people! … That leaves 310,999.730 people who are supposed to accommodate the demands of that 3.5%. Really?

Are the rest of us to set aside our time, energy and beliefs to accommodate this? All right, let’s say we try to mind our own business and “accept” the rights of other humans. Fine. But personally, when an owner of a bakery refuses to decorate a wedding cake for two men who are marrying, should he / or she should not be reprimanded? What happened to the business owners rights? What about “I have the right to refuse the use of my business to anyone I choose!” Do not the 332 million people who are sited as “normal” not have any rights any more?

The icing on the cake, so to speak, governor brown, of california, has gone too far this time for me. Along with two liberal senators, one from San Diego, and one from San Francisco (the freak capital of california, he just put through a law stating it is okay now if “someone who does not know if they are man or woman, to put that on a drivers license, or identification- as a non-binary gender.

In otherwords they have “created” a “third gender”. Who in the hell do these people think they are? gods?

There are a VERY RARE FEW cases who have been born with one too many, or one too little of the x or y chromosome. Meaning they TRUly have a physical problem that will require attention in the lives of these people. These cases, let me repeat, are RARE!

They (those who are extreme liberal, rich and powerful) are bending the minds of all who listen and accept this. I call BS. All they are doing is creating total confusion in the minds of young adults, and really in the minds of children. Humans tend to form thoughts from what they see and hear. With media acceptance, and legal acceptance – why it must be true…we have a third gender. (God might have missed this in creating us!). I am appalled!

This is being taught in many pre-schools…if you don’t like being a girl you can be a boy. Acceptance is being taught in schools. The media, some very big liberals in politics, and hollyweird are promoting how this is okay….it’s NOT. Teachers and retail stores are being told no longer call students boys and girls -no longer have separate sections: Call them children. Have no division in children’s clothing.
NO NO NO.

Moonbeam was a piece of garbage his last “reign” – so was his father before him!.. Really? A third gender? I THINK NOT.

I will not accept a third gender as commonplace. I will not accept training our young people that they can change genders if they like…until 7 or 8 they really don’t understand all the concepts of their physical bodies.

The TRUTH is: Boys have balls and a penis. Girls have breasts and a vagina. I HAVE DONE MY HOMEWORK.  I have read percentages, reports of psychologists, all about genders, etc. etc. etc. The incidence of this happening as I wrote before, is RARE.

God help us all.

How to Receive Love – Part 2

June 7, 2017

GOOD MORNING. Today I will finish my 10 thoughts on How to Receive Love!

First, please read yesterdays post and the five initial thoughts the the subject. If you ask what makes me such an authority on the subject I will only say I have received so much love over the years sometimes it is stunning to me.

I have also had the worst times a person can endure and been treated at times, quite poorly.. I won’t go into details, but to me, the past IS the past. We can either learn to survive and thrive, or we can live in the past and wither under its powers. That is the beauty of today. It is a new day. It is a NEW LIFE – one to make with what you dream.

Even if commitments are wearing you thin, and challenges have reached the top of the pendulum, keep in mind – at this point, you can choose either direction – drop to the bottom or rise to the top. (If you aren’t sure what a pendulum is – find out! UNDERSTANDING is a key to receiving love.)

These five I will expound upon but in a shorter version (at least I will attempt shorter – I have been called a word meister, although others are far beyond me there, I do consider myself a life meister…

5. Forgive. If you “need” to forgive in a relationship, then do it…forgive and forget. If you can’t forget – you may as well say farewell instead of torturing yourself and someone else.
6. Be understanding of others. There is always a reason for a frown or nasty attitude. The person may be able to be touched with a smile. There are also those who will continue to be nasty no matter what. If you feel that negative or EVIL, do not stick around and think you can change them. Just be grateful to be free and say a prayer for them.
7. Always be polite and thoughtful. Keep conversation ALIVE. Conversation is a key to a great relationship and deep love. In the end, friendship will outlive everything else.
8. Be flexible – accept people for who they are, don’t get involved to change them!
9. Open your heart to receive love. Don’t boil in a pot of fear from past heart aches. That is the past. If you don’t step up and find YOU – you will not gain your confidence. Remember love YOU. You are unique, one of a kind, a creation of God, and each of us has something very special….dig that out and let your life begin again.
10. FIRST AND MOST IMPORTANT YOU MUST GIVE LOVE – real appreciation for each and every human being you come meet. I am NOT talking about sexual love or appetite….if this is to happen, it will. If not, so what! I am saying find something good about each person, some quality or feature that is theirs and let them know honestly and timely, that you appreciate it. Each of us is individual. There is something amazing in each of us….instead of “judging according to what the “media” standards are, or consensus of one group or another….be your own person and allow your judgment to flow in the way of pulling the good towards you and appreciating instead of immediately “seeing” and thinking you know that person.

We all want love. In order to receive love, we must first “love”…love in the sense of all these ten points, add in your own thoughts, and just accept that if you are positive and keep being the best of you, I promise, some time – someone will gravitate towards you and you will know.

Don’t be anxious. JUST BE! DECIDE TODAY IS GOING TO BE THE BEST EVER. Find the smile,HOPE and get going! Give love and it will come back to you…perhaps not at the moment it is given, but I will stake my life on “this return” – far safer than the stock market or the horse races. Just begin to take life not quite so seriously – have fun, insist on it. All the things we worry about really are silly in the LONG run…each moment CAN glow with the light of love if you start it! Start the flow….so easy to love if you allow yourself!

Even if you don’t believe in the Great Spirit, pretend someone is watching you and wants you to succeed…give it your all. (Of course I KNOW in my heart of hearts this Spirit is available to us all, inbuilt and waiting for activation.) I will always acknowledge, the truth for me is Jesus loved us first. He came to us in a gentle Spirit, a human body, and humbled himself to love us all. How could I not acknowledge my truth when I have the opportunity.

Every time I have ever needed an arm to hold on, a shoulder to cry on, someone to kick me in the fanny to start again – a prayer calling for help was sent from me, and all I had to do was let go of worry and trust I am in good hands!

I want you to have love. You may be loved by someone who admires you and you might not even know it. Don’t get SEX mixed up with LOVE. Of course it can be wonderful, but it is NOT love – it is SEX, mating, pheromones, lots of things…it can be called “making love”, however most people that I have known over a lifetime that actually make love – are those who are together for a long time. For them its not “just” sex…it is “making love” and it gets better and better. Practice makes perfect. That’s all I am saying. 🙂

Addendum: Don’t expect a relationship that is to last, a love that is to last, not to be a challenge at times.

Apply these ten thoughts, get in the habit of it, and the challenges at first -will melt like butter into a flow of life. Lastly never forget to give each other space. Respect that. Respect you may be a “couple” but you are still each an individual with thoughts and dreams. Trust it. Inhale a long and slow breath now (do it 🙂 With your exhalation, let jealousy and insecurities of the past fly from you out the fingertips and into oblivion. You’ll be happy you did. It is a new day! CREATE a great one.

I love you, you human being!

IMPORTANT! Vehicle recall. (Also a post regarding “Madmen”)

May 20, 2015

IMPORTANT: In case you didn’t know – there is a recall of millions of vehicles because the airbags are defective. If your vehicle is in the recall, the bags can blow up like a bomb and have actually killed 5 or 6 people thus far. It is easy to check your vehicle.

Go to safercar.gov and click in your vin number (or numbers). The process is short and may save your life or the lives of someone in your family. Share this information. We need to channel important things “between” the people we love and know. I had a friend seriously injured by an airbag blowing up so I urge you to take a minute to do this. Be safe and have a wonderful day!

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Regarding the television show MADMEN.  The only reason I am posting this is to actually write a post from someone who lived in the sixties as a single woman.

I heard an excerpt from a post declaring that single women were better off in the same time Madmen was portrayed. That is a comment from someone who never lived the time.
It was a horrible time for both the married and single women I knew. Husband’s were drinking like fish at office parties and martini lunches, and cheating on their wives with every other breath they took. Hmmm.  Just like on the show.
Women who were married were “the little woman”. They were someone capable of cleaning and cooking and looking nice when the husband had friends over for dinner and drinks. They were never asked to office Christmas parties or any business conventions, for sure. They just cleaned and took care of the children..which was declared “an easy job” by most men.  My father-in-law (married 55 years) still calls his wife his slave – and to her face!
I was a single woman during that time and it seemed all I did was work, care for my young son, and then secretly hope some handsome man would walk into my life and sweep me off my feet. That happened a couple of times.
The first was a good-looking single guy and we dated for quite sometime. We always had a great time, but he did two things that caused me to break off the relationship. First he was very impatient with my year old son. I saw him jerk his hand. That was enough for me, but he also kept getting uglier as we dated. He was so particular about his looks. Fair enough, but he was getting more and more tied up with how handsome he was. Vane men are a real turnoff for me.
The second man tells the truth about Madmen. It was a lesson hard learned. A handsome sales man came into the entry of the business I was employed with (I knew how to run a switchboard,and was good with people) so when the regular gal was sick, I just took over for a few days. I actually worked as secretary to the president, so I pretty much could make make own decisions about my work – as long as he was set up with appointments, lunches, etc. It was a sweet job. No hanky panky expected either.
I have no problem naming the man as I will never forget what he did to me. He told me he was single and asked me to lunch. We had a great time so we had more lunches and then began dinners. He introduced me to steak and lobster and martinis. He was breath-taking in the looks department and kissed as good as he looked.
I began the only real “affair” I ever have had in my life. I quickly fell for this guy and we were amazing together in every way. After about six months he invited me to his place for a party. We had always gotten a suite at some posh hotel. He said because he was hosting, his buddy would pick me up. I was so happy and thought I was falling in love with this perfect “replica” of Don Draper in Madmen. However he was too close a replica!
His friend ran the bell and a lovely woman answered the door with three little ones snuggling her closely.  “Welcome to our home” she said sweetly.  My husband said you are a lovely young woman.  She was, of course, married to DICK PROTEAU -I will never forget that name, nor what happened next.

I was stunned and not quite sure what to do.  Dick (I mean Pig Proteau) stepped in and asked me how I was doing.  I told him I had a back that ached and thought I would go home as I needed to see a chiropractor.  “No problem,” Pig said, “A chiropractor is here tonight.

He went to a closet and grabbed a blanket and put it on the floor of the living room.  I was still in a state of disbelief.  He said “this is (what ever the heck his name was – probably pig2) and he can give you an adjustment.”  Like an idiot I lay on my tummy on the floor and the man actually sat on me and TRIED to feel me up (as we used to say).  Like a weightlifter setting a record, a trigger went off and so did he.  I stood up and demanded a phone.  I called a cab and stepped outside to wait.

I was horrified and humiliated.  I had cared so much about this totally lying PIG.  I said my prayers and asked for forgiveness for being with him.  I really knew NOTHING about his other life.  I felt like I had stabbed her in the back too, and her children.

I never spoke to him again and when he stepped into the office I simply turned and left.  Of course that was after I told him loudly what a lying, stinking, filthy, cheating, PIG he was.  From that point I simply avoided him 100%.  I felt terrible.

What made it worse was my friend, who worked in the next office over, called me on the phone and said, “Look towards my office”.  She stood there being sexually “manipulated” in the hallway by a red-haired young man who was married and whose wife had just given birth to his first baby.  I felt physically ill. His name was Bill, but I can’t remember the last.  Her name was Barbara, and she gave me a different view of her morals.  Didn’t speak to her again.

I quit my job with no notice.  I felt bad about doing that, but I couldn’t stand being anywhere near that place one more minute.

Sure…..the time period Madmen was in was lovely for single young women.  NOT!  I actually couldn’t believe the show was so true to life – the writer must have lived it too.

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Have a good day, and for you single young women, keep in mind you don’t really know someone for at least a year…my husband calls that time “the impression stage”. Take it slow.

The Dream

November 16, 2011

I awoke from a dream three minutes ago and felt compelled to write it down. It’s 6:50 AM. It could have been today’s reality; it was such an intense dream. It will stay with me, again, for a long while. Maybe you’ve been there.

I was thirty-five years younger, and I was meeting friends and other couples to go on a bus trip. I was with the man I had just married.

He was a con artist but that was not something I could not see at the time. Every one told me not to marry him, but how could I have known? Oh yes, the little voice from within told me not to do it, but I met him and fell into his arms…hurt from a failed marriage, with a man who never got close to me except to have two children.

I was hungry for “LOVE and affection”. I needed a DREAM.

My dream of being in love and having the perfect family had been
dashed, ending with my husband having a blatant affair, and refusing to give it up, even after counseling.

This man knew who and what he wanted, and what he wanted was me. He wanted all of me. He wanted my joy, my happiness, my beautiful children and home, my sex, my money – he wanted everything.

I immersed my true spirit with a cup of alcohol, which I thought relaxed me – then added a dash of pot, and with that managed to fool myself into just WHO he really was. I NEEDED that dream.

Anyway, we were on the bus and he stepped off for a few, with some of the other guys, and when he came back, he was totally someone else. He was angry. He moved away from me, and I wasn’t sure why. Everyone on the bus was shocked.

They were in the same dream as I was, and were deluded in their lives.

By then I knew he was drunk. I didn’t know what else he’d done, I assumed crank or pot, or another woman, but he was DIFFERENT. He was indifferent to me, and mad at me and began to show another self.

He flirted for a brief moment with a friend, and then I saw he was
almost laying on the floor, insecure, and obviously not the man I thought I knew.

I told one of the girls “I knew I shouldn’t have married him”, and he heard me and wreathed upright and said, “What did you say?”
The venom almost dripped from his mouth like a mad dog.

He was angry again. Strangely, I felt compassion for him.

I awoke. The dream seemed to last the night. I was startled. That dream was my reality thirty-five years ago, and it still haunts me in my sleep.

I have since forgiven myself, but it took almost twenty-five years to do that, and I still ask God for forgiveness for the horror my children saw, and perhaps the mistakes they are making because of it………

Children don’t learn from words. They learn from what they see and hear.

I am listening to my heart and the holy voice from within these days. I knew I must write this down to share. I prayed several days ago for the motivation and inspiration to once write again.

Yesterday I had a better dream. It was about a holy kiss. I knew I was supposed to write that too, but I “put it off” to take care of catching up from a trip. I will not do that again. When I am given inspiration, I will share it in the hope it will be inspiring to someone and that I will be sharing the love and hope I’ve been given.

A Holy Kiss will be written later today. CREATE your life in reality and with intellect and a fair helping of emotion. Depend on
God and don’t give up!