Posts Tagged ‘trauma’

Another night, Another world

July 18, 2018

Everyone had been hanging around, waiting patiently because they knew something was going to happen. You could hear the crackling of the power lines. No one knew why, but suddenly, atop the massive pillar of iron, sparks flew and the light became more intense.

People kept coming out of the building sitting directly next to the tower. It reminded me of the iron oil wells daddy used to drill, in times gone by.

I was certain there must have been a ladder that had been welded for workers to reach the top, which was at least as tall as the old red building that held at least four hundred people when the “season” was here.

I spoke to a man, none of us were strangers any more, as we all were drawn together by the hypnotic sounds and sights. It was a show of power…one that was mystical as no one knew what was to come; there was a high level of fear as to what actually would happen. The crackling became louder and more intense. The light was steady and creating shadows of various forms from the things projected in the black of the night.

I walked around, not even sure why I was there, but one thing I knew for sure was that same man who had invaded my dreams so many times was there. I heard his voice faintly in the background repeating my name – and saying, “Where are you? I will find you.”

It was at that moment I bolted, I dodged a group of mixed human beings (meaning ages, colors, and sizes) – a mix of all the creation of mankind. They turned and looked briefly as I said, “I am sorry, excuse me, pardon me.” I had always been polite. Polite and considerate of others. I was born a good girl, and a trusting living soul.

I heard the voice again – louder this time. I jumped off a curb and shot across the street and entered what appeared to be a kind of “viewing room”…perhaps it was built this way to just encourage people to sit and rest, and look through the large glass window. It was quite the view at that moment. I stood in front for a moment and looked first at the high tower and the more intense spurts of light and color. It had grown larger in just those few moments.

The window had glass that kept the sounds from permeating the ears of all who were there…though it seemed like an echo was resounding in my ears and filling my head with intense crackling.

I saw the building. I saw shadows of hundreds of people. Some were standing and some running in all directions, seeking a place where they felt safe – and yet could watch the impending, expected explosion.

I turned for a moment and realized there were quite a few people in this sanctuary; but they were intent on watching and not socializing. Eyes were all focused on the top of the tower of iron and metals.

In the distance I heard that familiar voice calling my name over and over. I knew what was going to happen. I sat down and tried to make myself small and invisible. In a moment what I had dreaded began. I saw the head of this giant man peek inside, and as if I were the only person in the room – his eyes met mine. He could smell my fear and the scent of me. He was a dog on the hunt, and I had been trapped.

Everyone in the room had turned to see him as he swaggered in and towards me. He towered above all others but the man sitting next to me gently took my hand and looked at me. Without words he said he understood.

We rose and turned to walk to the exit in the back. I could hear the giant man mumble under his breath, “I will get you again because you belong to me.” He had told me once, with a shotgun to my head, “If I can’t have you no one will.”

The power of his words overcame my survival senses, and I thought of the person ever-gently holding my hand. He was trying to give me wings to fly away….but I knew ultimately he would be the one permanently hurt if I let this go further.

“I will be okay. Thanks.” I said as I looked into his eyes, unclasp my hand and stopped. Just at that moment the giant said, “I knew you would want me”. He roughly wrapped me in his arms, picked me up and carried me in his arms.

The stranger did not know what to do, but I did. I thanked him with my silent eyes as I knew he
would have tried to save me……but at his own expense.

When we got outside he sat me down in a dark corner of the access road that was on the eastern side of the building. He began to undress me as I stood frozen with fear. I wanted to run. I wanted to scream. It was as if I had been hypnotized and my mind was looking at this nightmare from aloft. I was unable to speak or move.

Just at the moment he had begun to slip his hand into my panties, the top of the tower lit the entire sky sparks flew everywhere, and it blew. Everyone began to scream and run. The shrapnel flew into the air, and then downward into the crowd. The explosion did not culminate with one loud burst…it kept exploding and moving downward on the tower – along with other bursts of light and sounds of explosions outward on the lines that extended to all directions.

The green building was hit. People were screaming. I thought perhaps my eardrums had burst as I could no longer hear the crackling and explosions. Ensuing projectiles bombarded the crowd, hitting one or two at a time.

I could feel my feet begin to run. I did not know where I was going, and I did not look back. I could have run a marathon at that moment, and won. My feet flew and between steps it seemed as if I actually had wings to make the distance I tread further and further away from
the danger.

My mind shred into memories, the present, and an impending future. I ran lightly and swiftly – on my toes. I had never run so fast before. Behind me began to get quieter each step I moved. My feet barely touched the ground as my stride grew larger. i saw darkness a head, and everything was still behind me. I still never slowed my stride; never turned my head for fear of slowing down. I just kept running. I ran until I could run no more.

Understanding

January 25, 2018

Here is a thought on understanding. No one person has more pain than another. We all suffer in this life-time. Mental anguish, physical pain, both can be staggering, and both can disable a person.

Try as you may,  you will never be able to get directly into the mind of someone else, and have the same trials that they may face. We are all human, yet we are all different. We need to join together in understanding each person handles pain differently.

Some people can tolerate pain better than others, and some people may have no knowledge of the power we have within our minds to bear the burden and help heal our own pain.

Some pain will never diminish completely, and therefore we must adapt, we must use our wits about us to find acceptance and a way to handle it.

After all we are the ONLY one who knows our suffering aside from God. He will always help you to find a way to grow beyond your limitations, and still become that wonderful person from within.

Pray. Think in terms of “I am healing”, “I am doing the best I can”, “I can handle whatever happens”, and so forth. My mama gave me a great reason to keep going.  She said, “I must be strong for my children and my grandchildren.  I will make them proud of me, and prepare them for what may come.” She showed me by carrying herself with the strength of a mighty warrior, and rarely complaining.

Breathe. Think about your breathing and use this gift. You will create energy and relax simultaneously.  You will create pain medication from within, and will find, with practice,  you are able to divert your own attention from the pain, even perhaps, helping someone else who may be suffering.

Remember when you see someone with a weakened body, or injured, give their mind another reason to try….share a smile with them. Talk to them. Understand they may be struggling.  For as you give…..you SHALL receive.!  Create a day worthwhile with love and understanding.

Take a breath slowly in through the nose. Hold it. Visualize it helping you, and now exhale through the mouth slowly, visualizing pain and negativity dissipating as you exhale. Repeat this often. When you feel overwhelmed – breathe! Share the knowledge with someone and you will reap the rewards as well.

You are loved!

Go to a post on stressmanagementmagic.com – for an “update” on my back injury.

February 6, 2013

Just an update on my “back” condition.  I know each of us has his or her own challenges, but I just want to say you can get through whatever it is – and YOU WILL FIND happiness and peace at some point.

Look at your challenge like a “course” on managing life – no matter what happens.  I am upbeat and intend to stay this way!  It’s lots more fun and good for healing!

God bless you and all your family and loved ones.

Your Back – traumatic injury

January 14, 2013

I usually write a post for this blog and a different one for my stressmanagementmagic.com, but today I felt this might be important to someone, so this is a copy of that post.

I have information and a warning that I hope will be on help to you. I did break my back a little over a week ago. No, I did not crumble the spine or have a fracture that touched my spine and caused paralysis. I did have a traumatic fall and have a compressed fracture of my lower lumbar (L1). Unknown

It could have been worse – much worse. I actually did the WRONG THING when I fell. THIS IS A WARNING TO YOU ALL!

If you fall and hit your spine, or your back and feel that it may be broken – DO NOT just get up! I knew I had broken something, and I said my prayers for twenty minutes before getting up. Fortunately I turned to my side, waited, and then got up with some help, without bending my back.

IF I HAD A FRACTURE THAT PRESSED AGAINST MY SPINE I MIGHT HAVE PARALYZED MYSELF…IF I HAD A FRACTURE THAT WAS MUCH WORSE…I DON’T KNOW WHAT WOULD HAVE HAPPENED.

I was blessed. I do believe in the power of prayer and knew God was right there with me.
To me, my rising was not luck – it was God answering my intense prayers during those twenty minutes.

STILL, I REITERATE – do not get up if you feel your injury is serious. YOU WILL KNOW – even if you’ve never broken a bone before! I pray all of you will be safe and never have to deal with this scenario.

However, if you are ever at the scene of an accident, “help” with caution. Advise the person to wait for medical help and keep them still and alert.

I did not go to the emergency room. Again I was blessed. I should have gone. I did treat my injury as it should have been treated. Ice for the first 48 hours. If you do not have an ice pack, take freezer bags and put two cups of water and one cup of alcohol in and freeze. It makes a pliable ice bag and the cost is minimal.

I also elevated my knees at night, took 1600 mg. of anti-inflammatory (sold over counter at pharmacy) – ask if you aren’t sure as pharmacists are more than happy to help. Fortunately I had a prescription for pain medication for my hips so I followed the same directions.

To sit, I placed a lower lumbar pillow behind my low back. I had actually purchased it for my husband for when his back ached, but this is a perfect example of “giving and receiving”. It is too small for him and worked perfected for this situation.

I got an x-ray and an MRI and now have an appointment with a neuro-surgon to make sure I am a good candidate for vertbroplasty. This is a wonderful procedure that hopefully will eliminate most of the pain and help the healing process.

So there it is! My children always told me I was the best example of what not to do! Once again – DO NOT DO WHAT I DID. I believe in miracles and was blessed it was okay, but if it happened again, I would be a wiser woman.

Take care of your body. You only have one place to live! Live on the cautious side as it takes a brief second in time to be hurt, but a much longer period to heal.

Also keep in mind that HEALING really does involve the mind too. I know I will heal. I believe it is healing as I write this. Keep a positive and healing attitude and it will prove out the theory “mind over matter”.

Lastly for today, if you have things happen that absolutely physically supposed to NOT heal – keep that mind in the healing mode. ACCEPT some things, but always keep your mind open to miracles and the miraculous power of the human body to heal. Mind, body, and spirit – they aren’t just words….it all works together.

Think I’ll go lay down with my knees up and ice on my back! CREATE a beautiful day. I really care!

Stay Positive! This too shall pass.

January 10, 2013

Life can always be good. It is true that there will be intervals wherein you will cry, have to dig deeply into your spirit to find understanding, get mad, change your plans, or even change your life.  It happens to all of us.

When I write, I write from the heart, and from experience.  I will never deny that “time and circumstances” will happen that may throw you off your game, but again I say, your response to those circumstances are ALWAYS your choice.  This is important to know.

This post may not be long as it is difficult to sit today, because of “circumstances”. I will explain.  I hope in sharing some of those circumstances, you will surely know that I do not just say good words – I mean what I say.

I have had to adjust my thinking, (particularly over the past four years), but also most of my life.  Each one of us have a story to tell, but to prove happiness can be yours, and that I am not just sharing “words, these have been my physical challenges recently.

I will recap just a few of life changing moments from 2008 to this day, in January 2013.  Don’t know if I’ve mentioned them before.

2008 I had a muscle spasm in my low back. It had always been strong.  Went to emergency, they gave me a shot and pain pills and sent me home.  In the middle of the night the pain was so bad I awoke and went to get pain pills.  It got worse, I fainted, and when I awoke my husband told me my foot was turned the wrong way.  I had broken my leg.  Had to have surgery and a rod and pins put in my leg.

2009  I went bicycle riding with my hubby.  We flew down the hills and went twelve miles.  The next day I fell, going up a small hill, and broke my left wrist.

2010  Early in the year I found it was NECESSARY that I had a hysterectomy. I also had the rod and screws taken out of my leg later in the year.  To my dismay, I was also told that all the pain in my neck was from bulging discs and stenosis in my neck.

2011  I was climbing down a ladder and had my glasses on. I thought I was at the bottom and stepped off it thinking I was ground level.  I wasn’t.  Both my husband and myself heard my right wrist snap.  It was broken.

2012  The pain in my hips was beginning to keep me from walking a long distance.  To make a long story short, I was told my left hip has severe arthritis, and my right hip is “shot”.  I will need two hips (can’t be done the same time) – at some point in time.  Doc said I am about ten years younger than most of his patients, and that I have accelerated arthritis.  I decided to wait until the pain is unbearable, and use my hips as well as I can for now.

2013  Two days before my birthday (January 6th) I took my Rottie for a walk and had a traumatic fall.  As I lay flat on my back I prayed very hard.  I knew my back was broken.  After a while I managed to get up and drive home.  I should have called an ambulance.  If you ever have a traumatic back injury – stay down until help arrives.  God is good and my compressed fracture of L1, my low back, is not touching the spinal cord, and may be able to be repaired by a procedure…

So there it is.  I still believe we can all be happy – and believe it or not, I am still happy.  My position could be far worse, and with time, I probably will be fine and out kayaking again.

It is what it is.  I refuse to let life bury me with emotions that will ruin it.  I always will find that light and will pray and believe in miracles.

I could expound on it all, but I have my laptop on a pillow and I am lying down, so I am just about done for the day.

So take heart….it will be okay, and your traumas will be a challenge you can manage. Pray often, don’t blame God, and

do the best you can with what you’ve been handed.

Ask for help if you need it, and ask for prayers too – just like I am doing right now.  Please send your prayers and good thoughts to me.  We need to help heal one another.

Also, if anyone knows about a back procedure called vertoplasty-please share your information-whether it be good or bad reports.  I will delve into myself before I do anything like this recommended procedure.

God bless you! Have a beautiful day and take a breath or two.  There are still blessings all around us!