Posts Tagged ‘unhappy’

Picking up the pieces

September 25, 2016

 

I opened the refrigerator and saw the crystal bowl, as if in slow motion, drop in waves and then hit the floor with a mighty sound of glass splintering and grapes breaking off into all directions.

People use God’s name is so many situations. Thank God it’s cooled down. Thank God no one was hurt. Thank God the storm was less than expected. I often wonder if the name of God is even recognized any more, and if God has become just a phrase to express relief. I wonder if people really mean THANK GOD.

Thank God no splinters flew into the eyes of my puppy, standing off a far, looking as if he had done something wrong. I wondered if he would run off to the “naughty room”, his dog house, as he does when he carries something in his mouth that doesn’t belong there.

No, thank God he stood still and just watched, along with my good old girl, Dakota. Black as the night, wide eyed as children, they just waited for some reaction from me. To their surprise, I laughed. Why not.

My husband says to open any door or cupboard anywhere in the house is like looking for a bomb to explode. This time he was right. No one got cut. The bowl was just a material object, and the only other loss was a bunch of grapes.

I cleaned everything up. Looked at the precarious position of an opened twelve pack of Ginger Ale, I and decided to leave them where they were on the third shelf. Why not live dangerously….

It was so much easier to laugh and smile than to let the current situation overcome my senses and my life. I knew this too would pass.

Now think of politics. Let it go. It is not going to be life-changing to throw away all the moments and days we spend worrying. Let it go, and as it’s been said many times before….

Let it go and let God! The only control we really have is our response to life. I tried being miserable and it sucked. So I gave it up.

Here is the Confession

September 6, 2016

Here is the confession. Since my accident and incidents therein,

Too often I fall into deep depression.

 

I know in cyberspace there are fellow humans of like mind,

sometimes we search for answers, but answers do not find.

 

There is nothing shameful about having depression you see,

It happens in this lifetime, next door and across the sea,

It happens to us all -to you, and even me.

 

We are human. We feel love, terror, and pain, trauma.

Depression can hit us all – depression is not drama!

 

I awoke this morning covered with sorrow like dense fog.

Unable to find the departure, chained like a wild dog.

 

“What is the purpose of life?” I thought. My life is changed forever, and not for better.

I had a pity party – a pitiful one – no one came.

 

It was only I, raging like I was waging a war against myself.

Then praying, while rather insane, I placed my mind upon a shelf.

 

At last I thought, I knew what to do. Divert my own attention to something else……and maybe you should too.

 

So I left the room I was working in, took a breath or two and dropped to my knees.

“Give me help dear Lord, I prayed, let my heart feel at peace, if you please.”

 

Here I lay in bed, with laptop resting on my legs.

Writing simple poetry, trying to turn a phrase.

 

If I dwell on my sorrow, and cry and whimper, I will to hell cross the line,

Then I won’t smile or have joy in this moment of time.

 

All we have is this moment to live,

I must turn my thoughts not to get, but to love and to give.

 

I lay here and realize I still can write.

I can see in the daytime, and find rest at night.

 

Within there is a flicker of my light that should shine for many reasons I know.

I will find a few to jostle my memory, and wrestle depression with strength just to show….

 

I can DO whatever I think I can! My sorrows are few compared to many a man.

I do not know how much I time I have left to look at my life – nor days to enjoy.

 

I want to be an example of faith and of love,

I will keep praying for power from that of above.

 

I AM better already, can you read and see? Like I would with a child who needs help,

I diverted my own attention, and the task set me free.

 

Change your thoughts, change your emotions.

Use your wits to climb from the pits.

 

You may think this a silly poem, and some might think it not a poem at all.

But by taking the time to write it I kept myself from a major fall!

 

Do not stumble, do not muddle your thoughts to far worse than it is!

Now what was the stress management technique I used?

Ah, yes,….this is a quiz!

 

Simple and easy what to do – divert your attention – and God will bless you!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This is a post I have republished before….HUMOR. My girlfriend’s complaints about aging.

August 26, 2016

Why is the only hair on my body that hasn’t turned gray the long black hair growing from my nose?

Why didn’t anyone ever tell me that not only would everything “drop” as I aged, but my feet would also get bigger?

Why was I only told my bones would get weaker as I aged, and not that I would grow bony protrusions and knobby outgrowths everywhere on my body?

Why didn’t anybody tell me I would not only gain more wisdom than ever in my lifetime, but no body would listen to me?

How did I somehow miss that men not only loose their hair and get a receding hairline – but women often do as well?

I thought only Pinocchio’s nose grew bigger.

Why is it when you successfully age with good health no one will honor that with reasonable life insurance…every year I stay healthy my insurance rates go up!

You know the joy of having less hair to shave on your legs when you age is diminished by the fact all that hair grows on your face.

“Smile wrinkles” show you are happy. That’s crap. Just another group of wrinkles on your face.

I can eat the same food I always did, exercise the same, and still, when I look into the mirror I can see the fat accumulating on my stomach, hips and thighs. If I try to loose weight more wrinkles appear – gain it – my boobs hang down even further.

Shirley Temple can have dimples.   I am sick of the dimples all over my body. And no matter what anybody tries to sell you – they will never go away once you have them!

Okay stop eating candy and rub cream all over your legs. The dimples will still increase and you won’t get to eat your sugar quota or have the money to buy it!

Being a grandma is great. Being the built in baby sitter isn’t.

I was in the yard picking up dog poop (with a shovel of course), and also getting rid of mushrooms that grow wild and can be poisonous to dogs. . “Ah ah”, I thought, “two of those huge mushrooms right in front of me.” I picked them up, and to my dismay, it was two firm pieces of dog poop! One thing about not using your glasses when you get older is you don’t see as well without them.

The next time I went out, it was with glasses on. I love autumn – all the colors, and the crunch of leaves beneath my feet. What I don’t love is picking up dog poop with my hand for the second time, thinking it was acorns! Guess it’s time to get new glasses.

I went to the doctor a few days ago. I knew I would be hooked up to acupuncture needles and laying flat on my tummy for 30 minutes, so I thought since I was loaded with nasty gas, I would step into the hall and relieve myself quickly before being called in. I looked to the right and up the stairs and released a loud and long fart. I had forgotten to look to the left – there was a woman a couple of feet away on her cell phone. I tried to pretend it didn’t happen and slipped back into the office quickly.

I remember when I was married to an ass, one time we were at our son’s pack meeting for cub scouts, sitting in the very back of a crowed room. He thought he would be funny and let a loud and enormous fart and turned to me and called my name loudly – and indignantly…. as if I’d done it. Everyone looked at me. Some giggled and others looked disgusted. He paid for that one later.

Why is it my nose is running all the time now, and with no place to go. The world gets more enclosed as you get older. Most people walk by and go “Ugh, an old person.” They try to get away quick as if they will catch being old. Well here is the news people, if you don’t get old you are dead!

I saw a commercial with two old people flirting, dancing and kissing. Even I was appalled. Take it to a motel, and make it one with no mirrors on the closet doors – follow the new adage – “what happens in the motel, stays in the motel.”

Lastly in my list of complaints about aging…I think the funniest of all. My girlfriend said she didn’t have her glasses on and she brushed her teeth with hemorrhoid cream. She said it made her gag and almost throw up. That’s not the funniest thing about this – she did it twice.! WEAR YOUR GLASSES GIRLFRIEND!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The State of the Union – Huh!

January 23, 2015

Here is the true state of the Union. Money controls because it empowers.  Politicians control because they come under the guise of the “people’s” representatives – and they get fabulous money and benefits.  Those with fabulous money never have to worry about protection, and those with moderately fabulous money will simply hire people to protect them.  Our government has the biggest weapons of course. Those with the biggest weapons always rule.

Let’s give our weapons in and just let the government run everything, and hope the bad guys gave their weapons in too!  No that’s not a good idea – that’s what happened in Hitler’s case.  (If you aren’t familiar with that history, you should brush up a bit.)

If you think people are informed – think again.  The media has swayed this country since the beginning of it.  I spent the last three days reading and studying our Constitution, slavery, etc.…Gosh, my eyes have been opened.  I read different versions – I think I finally read the truth about history.

If you think the common man is educated, find the Jimmy Kimmel show that happened around MLK day, and listen to his interviews of “the common man.”  It is disgraceful. Did you know there was much dissention about creating this holiday? Reagan and MANY people didn’t want to initially, but football labor unions and others…put the pressure on the folks to sway the vote.

It is also disgraceful our government send three representatives to Ferguson for the funeral of a young criminal.  You may not like cops but if in trouble who do you call – ghost busters? I think not!

People like Al Sharpton instigate Trouble with a capital T. The media and anyone looking for fame, no matter what, run to any situation to ensuethe biggest story and the most media possible. Ever hear of editing….

I didn’t start this post with “any intention”, but I am a bit fired up at all the lies told daily to invoke a separation of citizens.  “A house divided falls” – have you ever heard that?

John Perry is an idiot. He sent a “hug to Paris” and had JamesTaylor sing “You’ve Got a Friend.” Throw up. Our pres. was too busy to go to Paris.

Do not be fooled.  State of the Union?  Huh. For all his rhetoric and fluffy speech, I heard these things:  Hail all the supreme leader who won both elections. Did you listen to the speech? Really?

How about this:  “I will NOT let THIS congress endanger the health of our children by turning back the clock on OUR efforts.”  (Translation:  I will veto any bills the republicans try to pass regarding health care- the OUR stood for Democrats. A hand across the table brother.

Already he has his pen in hand to negate anything the congress that the PEOPLE OBVIOUSLY VOTED IN this last election.  He said those words with a connotation I picked up that really said he isn’t going to do anything anyone else wants to do!

“Climate change poses an immediate risk to national security.”

Say what?  (A very well educated friend always said, our records only REALLY go back for a limited time.  Climate has always changed and most people just theorize what’s happening, it’s all theory.”)

“We reject offensive stereotypes of Muslims, lesbians, gays, transgender, and bi-sexual.” (Just whom is obama speaking for anyway?)  A bit of stereotyping, (remember 9-11, and read about today’s terrorists), goes a long way towards prevention!

Personally I like to think I do not judge ANY PERSON, however, I have certain “unalienable rights” to think freely, and to speak – and should without hesitation! Whatever is my own personal set of beliefs, I will speak my mind and not be afraid to say what I believe when asked.  If that is wrong, since I am not a terrorist or killer, or a bigot, then I am just not in America any more!

Speaking of rights – AT LEAST 38, yes CITIZENS of 38 states VOTED NOT to treat same sex marriage like the marriage between a man and woman. Thereafter, slowly, 38 State court judges changed the ruling because it wasn’t fair. Why vote?

Also kind of ticks me off that the electoral vote picks the president…I don’t even know why Californians, or anyone in the far western states votes – makes NOT ONE BIT of difference in the elections.  And this year, because of the lack of boundary on “donations” to candidates – pretty much once again, MONEY RULES, FAIR Play DROOLS!

Talk about the truth.  I’d like to see obama, while smoking his cigarette (YES he smokes), and say: “Actually my really name is Barry, I’ve been trained in Muslim ways, and I am as much white man as I am black man. I married a real black woman…so don’t be racist or judgmental.”    HHHHAHAAAAAAHAAAA.  True, but that is never going to happen. I am not just picking on the swave, Harvard education “speaker” – I refer to LIES from them all!

Let’s give junior college to everyone for free!  What a brilliant idea.  Let’s take motivation to attain goals out of the picture altogether, and just pay billions for those who want to go.  I wonder if that includes illegals, senior citizens, children who were unable to finish high school because they cared for an aging parent or grandparent…etc.  Why should anyone have to work for anything, anyway!  Just let the government use the willing ones work and pay taxes, keep those who have no motivation or like to drink and use drinks – just barely existing and out of the way, and make sure billions are put in the fund to protect the politicians from every stray man and woman LEFT BEHIND.

My friend told me she knows a lady and her husband who escaped to the us fourteen years ago, and neither work.  The man is 50 something and he spends most of his day in the apt. bedroom being depressed, and neither of them know English yet.  However, they are paid by the government and do exist.

He forgot to mention Isis and our other terrorist groups.  He didn’t mention the fact he will veto anything that tries to keep funding away from accepting millions of illegal aliens.  We haven’t enough jobs for citizens, 50% of America’s children are poor, and what we teach these people is that doing something illegal pays off!

Liberties?  Privacy?  For the middle class “folks” (he uses this when he wants to be like a peasant)- give me a flipping break.  Next month there will be drones about your house letting the government know in which room you are standing.

If you say ANYTHING out of what the “text” of those in charge want you to say, LOOK OUT, and if you keep listening to the media – you will be a member of the “dumbing down of America club”.

Exhortion – being forced to pay health insure when you are young and don’t really need it.  Having taxes taken out and never really have a say in anything.  The folks who left England to form a new country were tired of being taxed to death.

As an addendum – did you know the Portuguese were the first to sell slaves from Africa, and Africans were the ones who rounded up and sold their countrymen? Most of Europe and many South American countries joined in selling slaves – a couple of centuries, maybe more, before America joined in.  Even Lincoln would have sent Africans to South America or back to Africa, but he couldn’t figure out the logistics….honest.  I guess as a white person I am sick of taking all the wrap – besides I would NEVER do something like that.  That was then – this is now!  Forgive and forget the past or you will waste your entire life.

If this country is so prejudice why do we have a mullato president? How could Oprah become a billionaire and an actress? Why do America’s Got Talent and  American Idol (Harry Conick Jr. is soooo funny!- I am an idol head again because of the judges! ) allow all races to participate? How do all races participate in music?How come sport teams are made up of different races.  And how in the heck do we all live in peace day by day by day, most days?  That’s not reported, is it!

So let’s do what we can.

Rebel by living a good life following what we believe, loving each other regardless of anyone trying to convince us we don’t. Rebel by being a decent person and a good neighbor, loving our children and other children, and being kind to our pets.

Rebel by saying many prayers and remembering we are all human and just because we don’t get radical doesn’t mean we give in!

REBEL – BE HAPPY!

THIS IS SOMETHING WONDERFUL! I AM SURE YOU WILL LOVE IT!

August 20, 2014

Here is the best reason I have ever heard for just “turning” the covers down on the beds and not making them each day!  The air freshens the sheets and dries out any moisture that may be left on them, and at the same time kills bed mites!  Don’t cringe…we all have bed mites we can’t see!  YUK.

I will never make a bed again!

If you want a very simple stress management technique, go to my website: stressmanagementmagic.com and read today’s post.  It’s short!

CREATE a beautiful day full of individually wonderful moments.  Your the boss applesauce!  At least the boss of YOU!

Here are some flowers just for you!
Flower mix

Movie Reviews

August 12, 2014

A quick movie review. I feel qualified only because I have intelligence, taste and morals! (Actually, since my husband was hurt badly in 2003 and I was last year – we have watched (verifiably) over two thousand movies. That is sad, in a way, because we think holly weird passes the wrong messages to younger people.

Here goes:

Noah: The actors and special effects were jut fine, but something “lacked ” in the writing. If anyone was trying to see what Noah of the Bible was really like – this was wayyyyyy far off base. As far as everyone I have spoken with – the consensus is the same – entertaining, but nothing really special.

Under the Skin: For all the hype you would think this such an amazing move! It was- amazingly unprofound (is that a word?) and stupid. Yes, the actress is very pretty, and her nude body is fine too – but as far as the movie – YUK. Don’t spend your money. REALLY. It wasn’t a spectacular alien movie. She isn’t as pretty as Brad Pitt’s wife, you know who I mean, Angelina, and most of the movie was focused on her face. She has a nice smile, but as far as the rest of the acting – acting? Where? We watched it all because my curiosity is extreme, and I needed to know if there was a point I would be overwhelmed with the quality or story of the movie. NOT. If anything I was under whelmed. What a piece of trash and the time I spent “giving it a chance” is lost forever. Bleck!

Non-Stop with Liam NIiesem (that’s close) – what an unexpected A movie! I was totally shocked as I hadn’t heard of it, and it was one of those movies you can’t take your eyes off the screen because it is so exciting. Well worth the money. There is something sexy about that man.

Heaven is Real: I read the book. It was quite good, and a best seller because it is true. I don’t think the movie was quite as thrilling as the book, but my husband (who is crazy for wild stuff), even professed, he really enjoyed it.   A true story. I can relate to being “out of the body” as I was once after an accident…good to sit with family and ponder life and all that we can’t see.

Forgive the typing and all, I am still in a splint and with only my right hand (am left-handed) it is what you see is what you get. CHOOSE your movies carefully – they are sneaky in holly weird….we saw a movie (can’t think of the name of it) not too long ago, and NONE of the sexual violence was in the previews.

I had an attempted rape. It’s not funny, and it’s not sexy. Think of your daughters, sisters, mothers and girlfriends, guys, and don’t let that you see on screen entice you.

It’s your life – PICK AND CHOOSE!

 

BTway – I always choose “elderly or seniors with tags and categories as they NEED to be involved with life, with reality, with a part of what is happening now.  They have earned it!

 

The Lone Tomato

July 31, 2014

 

I carefully planted the plants, and chose the perfect soils. Each day I watered faithfully.
I manicured on a regular basis, and noticed there were many little blossoms to become tomatoes. The plants grew and filled in and I watered them.

The sun shone down and nourished them, and I watered them.

Then one day I noticed there were no more blossoms. The leaves were bent downward and had the look of dying plants. The blossoms were gone and still, I watered them.

Every day I watched and watered. For weeks I hoped and watered, but still they withered.

One evening I decided to quit watering, and perhaps even pull the plants from the ground and deposit them in the trash. I was so discouraged….

But as God would have it, I decided to water once again. There in the midst of plants that obviously were not thriving was one lone tomato.

the lone tomato

Rejoice I did! Round and still green, that little tomato renewed my hope. The hope that there in the midst of all that “looked” dying and wilted, a single tomato thrived and chose to live.

I choose to live too. There in still life in me, and a spark, and love. Before I begin to really wither on the vine- which I hope is a long while from now – I choose to try to reignite that spark and move onward and upward in love.

Never give up. Never give in – except to try to do God’s will. I dropped to my knees in prayer a couple of days ago – and with all that has happened to me, it wasn’t easy to get down – or up – but it felt so good again to humbly thank God for hope and that spark of life in me to tend to, to fulfill what I was put on this planet to do!

God bless YOU and all those in your circle of life. Find that “lone tomato” and tend to it!
All is well.

WHY I DON’T KILL MYSELF

July 2, 2014

Since my accident and eventual spinal cord damage that forced me to have my back fused, my life has changed one hundred percent. Even more than the visible injuries, the injuries that are invisible almost make my life JUST a repetition of more doctors and often feeling like crap! Pretty honest, and it’s absolutely the truth.

I know – it sucks. There are days (and I am having one, thus far, today) – when I wish I could just throw in the towel and say, “That’s enough – I am done!”

There is not a day that I can forget I am now disabled permanently. Between pain and the “various” other disabilities, my life is changed forever.

I am also battling with major depression. I don’t really share with anyone anymore the battle I have not to be totally nuts! My poor husband has been stellar, and now I am putting lots of moans and groans, and depression, and down times, to rest…it’s between God and me – and you, of course.

 

Now you might ask then, why I don’t kill myself?

 

First of all, with suicide, there is no “taking it back”. “Whoops! Guess I changed my mind after all!” Besides suicide is the way out for those who don’t call upon inner strength. I am not a weakling – even though a lot of my strength comes from “self-talk”.

I will not give up.

There are several other big reasons, and the first being I am a Christian, and suicide is against my spiritual beliefs. But even if it were not a matter of my spiritual beliefs, even if I believed suicide was okay, I still wouldn’t do it.

It’s not that I am afraid, because I am not. I just believe there is something that is placed inside each of us that gives us, innately, the strength to fight to live. The only time that strength flees is when drugs and/or alcohol drown the true pure spirit.

I believe this with all my heart, and still after so many trials in my life, I fight to live. In fighting, however, sometimes have to settle for barter with life.

Mama told me there are three things I can count on in life:

  1. God
  2. Her love
  3. Change

I find, after all these years of living, she was right on the money. Number three is the one that happens EVERYDAY, and OFTEN without ANY NOTICE!

So here are VALID reasons not even to entertain that thought in my mind (or perhaps YOURS)!

  1. HOPE – I still have a feeling of expectation Perhaps something will change tomorrow. Could be ANYTHING – new cure, a visit from a long-lost friend, winning the lottery, having the best steak I’ve ever eaten, the best sex ever, a television show that is so fun I can’t stop laughing for a day! I would never know if I killed myself. If any of these things could have come to fruition.
  2. Once the deed was done there would never be another full moon to see, a bird to listen to, a book to read, a sky full of stars to gaze at, a beloved animal to pet and love, a child to sit on my lap for a visit in the spring, summer, winter, or fall,. I would miss it all, and that isn’t even the tip of the iceberg, as the saying goes.
  3. I am selfish. I love spending time with my husband, family and/or friends. I love my time alone to regenerate and think and write. I love to find a great bargain at a yard sale. I love to cook. I love taking photographs of people and places. I anticipate perhaps just hope, I will be able to travel to new places sometime. I guess I still like many things that life offers me.
  4. My “legacy” (don’t know if anyone would care besides my family) would be a lie. All the years I taught, and teach stress management and relaxation would be lies. I would have taken the “chicken” way out, and my whole life would have been for nothing.
  5. If there is a blazing hellfire, I do not want to be in it. I suffer when I get sunburned, and to me, fire is the scariest thing I know. I do not want to “burn, baby, burn”.

I think those five reasons add up to hundreds of personal reasons I cannot ever kill myself. Besides, I REFUSE to throw in the towel and let life stomp me out. I do not believe suicide is a natural thought.

I believe it has been placed in our minds by evil, whether it is from a movie, or a terrible murder-suicide, or a song. I also STRONGLY BELIEVE that ninety-nine percent of those who commit suicide either had mental issues, serious ones, or were plied with alcohol and/or drugs. Think about that one. Review the most recent “self destruction” you know about, and I bet there were drugs or alcohol involved, or severe mental illness.

Writing is a wonderful release, and you do not need to have a blog, or be perfect in English, to write your thoughts on paper.

Don’t give up! Besides, what if reincarnation is a fact and you had to come back as a maggot becaue you had killed yourself. Yuck.

Instead – begin again – CREATE your life, and I pray it is better as each moment passes!

I am praying for me too! God bless you and God help us all.

 

 

 

 

 

 

4 MILLION women are beaten and abused each year.

June 6, 2014

Is that shocking?

Well how’s this for a shocker? That is in the USA – not a third world country! I tried to find statistics on men being beaten or killed by their spouse or partner, but I came up with pretty much nothing. I know there have been some such instances.

The leading cause of violence to women fifteen to forty-four, ( car accidents, mugging and rapes combined) is caused by their husband or domestic partner.)

Here is another stunning fact. 16% of young men between the ages of eleven and twenty are serving time for killing their mother’s abusers.

Something is wrong with this picture! Agreed!

I spoke to a weapons expert in length day before yesterday, and he was kind enough to share some pretty important tips for women who are, or may be in a position to be beaten,

or even worse.   Marshall also teaches a self-defense class.

He seemed appalled that anyone would touch a woman in that manner. He seems to be a really decent man. This is what he shared with me.

1. No stun gun. The stun gun must be held against a person 15 seconds to be effective. In an emergency situation, one mistake and it’s over.

2. No knife. Same result if you aren’t fast and an expert.

3. No gun – unless you have a permit to carry a concealed weapon, know how to use it, and are defending your own life. God forbid you are ever in that scenario!

4. No taser as you have to aim and hit dead on. Even if that happens the connection can be pulled off in most circumstances. Police almost always have a back-up.

5. Pepper Spray – YES! YES! YES! Have your pepper spray in a pocket or concealed within immediate reach. Before he can reach you, spray directly in his eyes. It has to be either in your hand so it is unseen, or concealed in some manner, because if he sees it he can block the spray from his eyes.

This is something Marshall told me that I found extremely interesting. Once you spray the attacker – keep spraying directly in the eyes until the canister is completely empty!

That is important.

He assured me that if you use the whole can you will have time to grab whatever you need (like car keys and a purse)-pick- up the baby (babies) – and escape.

It will not permanently damage the eyes, but will disable your attacker.

He suggested that if you’ve never used a pepper spray before, buy an extra one and go some place and practice.

Practice the “draw”- practice spraying – spray the entire container, and practice, practice, practice.

Rehearse it in your mind an emergency scenario. Keep in mind wind/or a fan can send the spray where it shouldn’t go, so be careful!

Another tip I got was when you are walking alone, keep spray in hand, or car keys. Don’t put yourself in harm’s way, and walk proudly, keeping an eye on your surroundings if you feel insecure.

I firmly believe if a man or woman is drunk – IT IS NOT the time to fight.  Drunks cannot be reasoned with, and sometimes get violent.  Also, I have known women who “egg a man on” – taunt him with words that instigate a man to loose control.  NO that is not reason to abuse physically, but women can sometimes STOP a situation from accelerating by simply being quiet and walking away.

Some good  advice is to NOT listen to music or TALK ON THE PHONE, when you are the least bit nervous about walking or running. Those things put you at a real disadvantage. I know it’s not the most fun, but neither is abuse!

LASTLY – I am aware that there are men who are abused.

I actually have known a man who had a knife drawn on him by his own wife.

In the instance of man vs. woman, I believe that men are born stronger than women…even a small man can probably handle a woman strength-wise. I actually had an attempted rape by a man much smaller than myself. He was able to drop me on the floor quickly.

I thank God I was able to talk my way out of that situation.

Honestly, I do not know how a man would handle a woman abuser, except possibly “contain” her until she calms down – or better yet, WALK AWAY! Get out of the situation, and don’t return for more unless there is a conversation, and counseling. Why put yourself in a volitale position?

I pray you never have ANY abuse (verbal or physical) – man, or woman.  Let’s try to use our intelligence to solve problems…..Have a safe weekend and God bless you!

 

 

 

 

 

Please Lord, give me, and give us all HOPE.

April 10, 2014

Renew my confidence in your promises, and let your Spirit enfold my heart and hold it towards your love and steadfastness.

I am humbled and ready to finish this tapestry of my life in a fashion that will imbue the majesty of YOU.

Let me increase my light from a flicker to burn brightly, filling whereever my essence is seen or heard, with your magical and majestic love.

Let my love increase, permeating all that is part of the moments I am given to live on this planet earth.

Even in pray meant to praise I am still a child asking for your Glory to fill that part of me reserved within, that is especially meant for you. Without you I am an empty vessel.

With you, my love and peace overflow. I am filled and renewed and able to move onward and upward.

 

On those days when I feel so far away, and my prayers feel like empty words, forgive me. I know that you know, because of my tenacious yearning for you, even when I am overwhelmed with sorrow and pain, you are near, waiting for the moment once again, that my faith in my unseen Savior and God will draw me home.

If it is thy will, let me touch hearts and spirts and speak with thy love.

If it is thy will, let me fly in my dreams once again.

All these things I pray in the name of Jesus Christ, whom I love and adore.