Posts Tagged ‘women’

Abortion (2001)

July 17, 2022

I wrote this article after working at a local women’s clinic that primarily performed abortions. As a writer I wanted an ‘inside look from the inside’, to see if after 6 months working there, I would better understand the very controversial subject.

This article was printed in a Free Press paper, but other than that, I have not published it until today. Since it is so applicable to current discussions, I felt it would be good to share my experiences. I can only ask that you not be the judge of me, whatever your thoughts. Only God can judge us in the final analysis. .

The physician was the only one who actually performed the abortions. Personnel worked as assistances and advocates for the women.

During my employment I wrote a contract for ANYONE outside protesting to sign if they so chose. It was to be signed by the woman seeking an abortion and a person who was willing to do ANYTHING to help the woman and child. If they would help, the woman would opt NOT to follow through with the abortion.

I circulated the contract, talked to so many people – those yelling baby killers, and those holding gross signs with a late term abortion child…….NOT ONE PERSON was willing to do anything to help – not financially, not as a counselor, a babysitter, a grandparent and/ or friend. No one would commit to keep an abortion from happening. It broke my heart.

I was able to just post a photo of most of the article, but page one would not come up, for some reason – so I simply retyped it.

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THE LAND OF OS

As I closed the door behind her, the young woman turned and burst into tears.

“You must understand,” she plead, “I can’t go through with it.  My dad would kill me if he found out I was pregnant.  It was the first time for me!”

“Please understand I’s important you do,” she began.  “This was not supposed to happen. I am a Christian.  My boyfriend found out and broke up with me.  My dad would be furious.  He’d call me a murderer.”

I handed her a tissue as she tried to stop sobbing.  My mind flashed back to the day I picked up a newspaper and noticed a jo for a part-time health worker.  The ad asked interested candidates to send a letter stating a position on abortion and enclose a resume.  I knew this was to open a new chapter in life experience and I knew I would respond that day.

The ad intrigued me, as did writing my position on abortion.  I had refused once to ever consider an abortion.  I never felt that decision belonged to anyone but the pregnant woman, (and maybe the man who impregnated her) – but to me personally it was not an option.

Within the week I received a call from the Women’s Health Clinic.  The woman on the phone was friendly and told me a meeting was to be held for those who had sent resumes and a letter.  She told me there would be a “self-help” group that day, and that we would be invited to participate, though it wasn’t mandatory.

Again, I was intrigued.  “Self-help” she explained, was the experience of learning how to use a speculum to open and separate the walls of the vagina so you had a clear view of the cervix.  A view of your own cervix (while holding a mirror) to see if it looked healthy.

My innate shyness blossomed momentarily, overtaken soon by the curiosity I felt to learn more about my own body. I wrote the date of the meeting on my calendar and mused how strange a thought it was to ponder checking my own cervix to see if it looked healthy.

I had raised three children but never been taught to do that!  It sounded like a good thing to know.

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Another night, Another world

July 18, 2018

Everyone had been hanging around, waiting patiently because they knew something was going to happen. You could hear the crackling of the power lines. No one knew why, but suddenly, atop the massive pillar of iron, sparks flew and the light became more intense.

People kept coming out of the building sitting directly next to the tower. It reminded me of the iron oil wells daddy used to drill, in times gone by.

I was certain there must have been a ladder that had been welded for workers to reach the top, which was at least as tall as the old red building that held at least four hundred people when the “season” was here.

I spoke to a man, none of us were strangers any more, as we all were drawn together by the hypnotic sounds and sights. It was a show of power…one that was mystical as no one knew what was to come; there was a high level of fear as to what actually would happen. The crackling became louder and more intense. The light was steady and creating shadows of various forms from the things projected in the black of the night.

I walked around, not even sure why I was there, but one thing I knew for sure was that same man who had invaded my dreams so many times was there. I heard his voice faintly in the background repeating my name – and saying, “Where are you? I will find you.”

It was at that moment I bolted, I dodged a group of mixed human beings (meaning ages, colors, and sizes) – a mix of all the creation of mankind. They turned and looked briefly as I said, “I am sorry, excuse me, pardon me.” I had always been polite. Polite and considerate of others. I was born a good girl, and a trusting living soul.

I heard the voice again – louder this time. I jumped off a curb and shot across the street and entered what appeared to be a kind of “viewing room”…perhaps it was built this way to just encourage people to sit and rest, and look through the large glass window. It was quite the view at that moment. I stood in front for a moment and looked first at the high tower and the more intense spurts of light and color. It had grown larger in just those few moments.

The window had glass that kept the sounds from permeating the ears of all who were there…though it seemed like an echo was resounding in my ears and filling my head with intense crackling.

I saw the building. I saw shadows of hundreds of people. Some were standing and some running in all directions, seeking a place where they felt safe – and yet could watch the impending, expected explosion.

I turned for a moment and realized there were quite a few people in this sanctuary; but they were intent on watching and not socializing. Eyes were all focused on the top of the tower of iron and metals.

In the distance I heard that familiar voice calling my name over and over. I knew what was going to happen. I sat down and tried to make myself small and invisible. In a moment what I had dreaded began. I saw the head of this giant man peek inside, and as if I were the only person in the room – his eyes met mine. He could smell my fear and the scent of me. He was a dog on the hunt, and I had been trapped.

Everyone in the room had turned to see him as he swaggered in and towards me. He towered above all others but the man sitting next to me gently took my hand and looked at me. Without words he said he understood.

We rose and turned to walk to the exit in the back. I could hear the giant man mumble under his breath, “I will get you again because you belong to me.” He had told me once, with a shotgun to my head, “If I can’t have you no one will.”

The power of his words overcame my survival senses, and I thought of the person ever-gently holding my hand. He was trying to give me wings to fly away….but I knew ultimately he would be the one permanently hurt if I let this go further.

“I will be okay. Thanks.” I said as I looked into his eyes, unclasp my hand and stopped. Just at that moment the giant said, “I knew you would want me”. He roughly wrapped me in his arms, picked me up and carried me in his arms.

The stranger did not know what to do, but I did. I thanked him with my silent eyes as I knew he
would have tried to save me……but at his own expense.

When we got outside he sat me down in a dark corner of the access road that was on the eastern side of the building. He began to undress me as I stood frozen with fear. I wanted to run. I wanted to scream. It was as if I had been hypnotized and my mind was looking at this nightmare from aloft. I was unable to speak or move.

Just at the moment he had begun to slip his hand into my panties, the top of the tower lit the entire sky sparks flew everywhere, and it blew. Everyone began to scream and run. The shrapnel flew into the air, and then downward into the crowd. The explosion did not culminate with one loud burst…it kept exploding and moving downward on the tower – along with other bursts of light and sounds of explosions outward on the lines that extended to all directions.

The green building was hit. People were screaming. I thought perhaps my eardrums had burst as I could no longer hear the crackling and explosions. Ensuing projectiles bombarded the crowd, hitting one or two at a time.

I could feel my feet begin to run. I did not know where I was going, and I did not look back. I could have run a marathon at that moment, and won. My feet flew and between steps it seemed as if I actually had wings to make the distance I tread further and further away from
the danger.

My mind shred into memories, the present, and an impending future. I ran lightly and swiftly – on my toes. I had never run so fast before. Behind me began to get quieter each step I moved. My feet barely touched the ground as my stride grew larger. i saw darkness a head, and everything was still behind me. I still never slowed my stride; never turned my head for fear of slowing down. I just kept running. I ran until I could run no more.

DON’T LOOK HERE…..

April 24, 2018

Amazon - Precursors of the future

……FOR WORK, THAT IS.  A PRECURSOR OF THE FUTURE AVAILABILITY OF WORK FOR HUMAN BEINGS.

THIS IS JUST ONE SECTION OF AMAZON  – LAST WEEK.

(Photo credit:  KRCR Channel 7)

Exposed – Brad and Angelina

January 29, 2018

For anyone who may have thought this post might have been about someone being naked, or caught in “a situation” – SORRY!  Also, I just used Brad and Angelina’s names to get your attention!  They aren’t mentioned in the post, so if it is only them you are looking for, best stop reading and move on…and have a great day!

This is a wholesome post with some old wives tales exposed, and other things too! By the way, if you question if I am an old wife, I’ve been married 30 years – does that count?

Enjoy.

A hearty breakfast of sausage (or bacon), eggs, and buttered toast will help your husband prepare for the day – whether is work is physical or mental or both!

A lie. That is probably what is clogging your husbands arteries and may, indeed, cause him a fatal heart attack in the future.
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All millennials are not spoiled, self-fish, thoughtless and shallow brats.

A lie. There are many “quieter” millennials who have all the qualities of an adult child you would work and hope for in their futures. Once again the media has shed bias and light on those millennials who are not full of hope – but seem rather hopeless. Remember: there is always hope.
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If you let a dog lick your wound, it will help to heal it because their saliva and tongue have healing properties.

Sorry, not true. There are no healing properties in letting the dog lick you – unless you like it and you feel deep down, it may help. What helps is the sedative like feeling you get when something loves you unconditionally, and would do anything for you…like lick a wound.
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If you dump grease down the sink you should run hot water.

A lie. Run cold water so the grease will not clog the pipes. If you run hot water and fail to get all the grease down, when it cools – it clogs.
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If you are a Christian you automatically forgive someone if they have done something terrible to a member of your family and/or friend.

A fallacy. Christians have the same protective nature all humans do….they are “supposed” to forgive – but often it takes a lengthy period of time to do so. Sometimes forgiving is impossible. That does not mean they aren’t Christians. It means they are human. God knows hearts.
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If you are using a recipe that calls for buttermilk, and you don’t have any, you can use vinegar in the milk instead. Not a lot, 1/2 – 1 tablespoon.

True
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If you are out of toothpaste you can brush your teeth with baking soda.

True. It works. Kind of tastes nasty but its better than hemorrhoid cream. DON’T ASK.
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If you don’t have shampoo or are short on time, use corn starch to clean your hair.

True. Just drop pour on top, then bend down and pour more. In that position rub it through you hair as if it was water. Then shake it out and brush. (Of course be over something that catches the corn starch that falls…like a sink, outside, or standing on newspapers.
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You can use make-up and vitamins longer than the label says you can.

True. When you think you are done with a product, open it and pour it into a container wherein you can still use it. When corporations tell you not to use it – that is a ploy so you will trash it and buy more. As far as vitamins – if they are hard pills they are fine. If they are fluid or in a capsule that melts in your mouth, test one. SMELL what is inside. Your nose will tell you what to do.
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If you think you will have a wonderful day, barring a catastrophe, you will!

TRUE. The day is in your mind. No matter what happens to you, your response is 100% your choice. In hard times there are lessons to be learned. That does not mean you need to be miserable. As ye thinketh, so shall ye be….CREATE A WONDERFUL DAY! Love one another!
I THINK YOU CAN!

Understanding

January 25, 2018

Here is a thought on understanding. No one person has more pain than another. We all suffer in this life-time. Mental anguish, physical pain, both can be staggering, and both can disable a person.

Try as you may,  you will never be able to get directly into the mind of someone else, and have the same trials that they may face. We are all human, yet we are all different. We need to join together in understanding each person handles pain differently.

Some people can tolerate pain better than others, and some people may have no knowledge of the power we have within our minds to bear the burden and help heal our own pain.

Some pain will never diminish completely, and therefore we must adapt, we must use our wits about us to find acceptance and a way to handle it.

After all we are the ONLY one who knows our suffering aside from God. He will always help you to find a way to grow beyond your limitations, and still become that wonderful person from within.

Pray. Think in terms of “I am healing”, “I am doing the best I can”, “I can handle whatever happens”, and so forth. My mama gave me a great reason to keep going.  She said, “I must be strong for my children and my grandchildren.  I will make them proud of me, and prepare them for what may come.” She showed me by carrying herself with the strength of a mighty warrior, and rarely complaining.

Breathe. Think about your breathing and use this gift. You will create energy and relax simultaneously.  You will create pain medication from within, and will find, with practice,  you are able to divert your own attention from the pain, even perhaps, helping someone else who may be suffering.

Remember when you see someone with a weakened body, or injured, give their mind another reason to try….share a smile with them. Talk to them. Understand they may be struggling.  For as you give…..you SHALL receive.!  Create a day worthwhile with love and understanding.

Take a breath slowly in through the nose. Hold it. Visualize it helping you, and now exhale through the mouth slowly, visualizing pain and negativity dissipating as you exhale. Repeat this often. When you feel overwhelmed – breathe! Share the knowledge with someone and you will reap the rewards as well.

You are loved!

PAIN, WORLD PROBLEMS, AND A WAY TO SURVIVE!

January 21, 2018

Totally believe we have choice one hundred percent of the time. “The best anesthesia against pain is your mental power. If you identify yourself more with God and less with the body.”..……You can survive anything and be happy!

“Be mentally apart from pain; develop more strength of mind. Be tough within. When you are feeling pain, inwardly say to yourself, “It doesn’t hurt me.” When a hurt comes, recognize it as something to be cared for, but don’t suffer over it.”

We can help heal our bodies with the power of our minds.  We will find peace beyond understanding if we fill that empty space in our hearts with God.

We need to remember to have FUN and really take time to LIVE!

Time is of the essence.   Fill the air with love and don’t forget to listen and watch…miracles are all around us if we just open our hearts and eyes.

You may think what is happening in the world is terrible and out of control. It may APPEAR you have no choices. You ALWAYS HAVE THE CHOICE of how to react to what happens in your corner of the world. Do the best you can in “your” world, remember to love and forgive, and be honorable in your actions.

One word, one deed, one moment could make a change in someones life and then the domino effect begins….one human, one heart at a time.

Sexual Abuse and the bully

November 28, 2017

MORE SEXUAL TALK!

I don’t give a flying shoe about the hollyweird aspect, or the political scenarios. THIS IS NOT A NEW ISSUE! Sexual advances from most men (not all) have been a part of the world’s problems, since men found their penis and then reached their sexual peak…age eighteen! This is when the testosterone is the highest for most men.

From that point, “its all downhill”. At least that is the physiology of the problem, and the “problem” is overcome by selling pharmaceuticals make billions on enhancing male sexuality.. I think the crux of the problem is the twisted and perverted peak the magazines, television, particularly the internet, has taken many men and women.  Additionally, some men are bullies!

Today, via movies and television, it is presented perfectly normal for a young man and woman to meet, and be attracted, and within hours / or minutes, the couple is pressed up against a wall ripping their clothes off, or jumping in the sack for a short screw (and that is all it is), and then – “bye-bye”.

Sexual relations have been going on since the creation of man, but it seems all the forms of medias, particularly the community of hollyweird, has pushed and endorsed its agenda to make money! Also, if you think about the sexual violence and rapes that are presented to those who use television and or the internet to “relax” after a long day at work, it kind of begins to make sense.  Some people use those medias as actually a representation of learning tools!

The dumbing down of America through technology.  A sad and terrible truism.

Even the Lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community was pushed by Hollyweird as an agenda that they could show in movies and make money! Follow the money.

This “community” is very tiny community percentage wise. The number of all LGBT humans is 3.8 percent of the population of three hundred million in the USA alone.

This figure may be overestimated. I have done my homework on this. There is a larger percentage of citizens who have “experimented” as opposed to being born this way.

Women lead the bisexual march.  I believe magazines started this trend with the “girl on girl” photos in the late fifties and early sixties. But these folks are NOT members of the real LGBT community…The transgender community is extremely rare.
I am NOT blaming men or women for sexual adventures or misadventures, as it may be. I am blaming (and I wish I could specifically name names) those who are pushing towards a society that neither hones men or women. A society that wants the non-gender attitude, and the careless and casual sex “that doesn’t mean anything” – to blossom.

If there are no solid alliances between men and women, there will be no power except factions of groups who stand together to make noise, but vanish into thin air when the media stops focusing on them. People will only have their “peasant” work to do.  I am one of the peasants.

Even those in the higher financial state will honor and respect nothing except the almighty dollar.

The SEXUAL “State of the Union” is pathetic. Confusion among the peasants keeps them down and working….They (the unnamed) creatures are playing gods, and I believe there will be a quiet majority who will at some point, have had enough-more than enough.

A problem here is that CHILDREN are being taught EVERYTHING is okay!
Children are being primed in pre-school and elementary school, INACCURATE AND MISLEADING “facts” . They are being led down a path they don’t even understand as yet.

They are being molded by a group of people who have lost any sense of moral reckoning. A group that only cares about putting children on life-long drugs, doing life-changing surgeries, and changing the attitude of the upcoming generations to accept everything.

Genders / sexual experiments / etc. are something that children (at these ages) do not fully comprehend. They are being led down a path with molding that can screw up their little lives – forever! They are the innocents, and I am mad!

I kind of drifted from the subject of sexual abuse, but like bullying – sexual abuse (from both genders) has been going on for centuries. I do understand that men are the worst offenders, but it is point blank simply because men are aroused by sights and sounds, and it doesn’t take much…Wherein women may be attracted, and sometimes even hot, we don’t have the “trigger point” men naturally have. That is not an excuse. There is no excuse for taking advantage of a situation to gain sexual favors for a favor in return – job security, etc.

There is NOTHING new under the sun! The difference is instead of women “handling the scenario”, they whine and “arouse” a different kind of situation.

I have been accosted – more than once – I spoke up and eye-ball to eye-ball and confronted the problem! I spoke up more than once, and  when I was unable to resolve the problem, I openly went to management. One time that did not work – I packed up and walked out of my position. I had some positions I loved and did not want to have to quit, but waiting forty years to explode – NO WAY!

In my heart, I think these women are frauds. If they didn’t speak up then, even if fearful, they are cowards to say anything today. Forty years is a lot of time to mature and hopefully mend the evil ways that caused the problem initially.

This hollyweird stuff is garbage. Probably these poor excuses for women didn’t speak up because they got the “perks” they shut their mouths for then…..

Women, DON’T BE AFRAID of the consequences if you are molested in any way. Speak up. Either handle it yourself or tell someone else and get help to handle it! All you are doing by being silent is hurting YOU! Be courageous and be an example for other women and girls.

And women, please remember, you are dealing with men whose sexuality is activated at the sight of a beautiful girl walking by or a low cut blouse. No one deserves to be molested or raped – but you don’t hold out a steak to a dog – unless you want him to jump for it.

Just a note. Bullying is the same thing. The thing about a bully is he either try to incite you with words, or by hitting. Try to walk away, but you may have to punch back! Tell someone right away (who cares if you are a tattle tale)  and take care of the situation immediately.

I knew a coward bully, and he would come up to the back of someone and punch them in the head.  Bullies don’t abide by rules.  Bullies have always been around.

Unless YOU take action, the worst repercussion might be when you are met by the bully again, and wind up hurting from another beating. But if you see him or her coming, fight back!  There are no rules for a bully.

Stand up for yourself no matter if it is sexual abuse, or a bully trying to make himself feel better by being a bully!  Someone has probably been sexually abused that person, and more than likely the bully has been bullied!

TAKE a SELF-DEFENSE class. Ask for help in learning to defend yourself. I am not saying you shouldn’t try to walk away from the problem, but if you don’t TAKE CARE OF LIFE’S IMPORTANT situations, WHEN THEY OCCUR, you will find yourself facing the problem again and again!

 

Subtle Overthrow in Progress?

August 15, 2017

“There came an alien race to earth, intend on conquering all, and the name of the alien race was is alcohol.”

“Aliens are slowly taking over the entire planet by disguising themselves as alcohol.”

“Soon we will all  be so addicted and they will  throw us aside, and turn into the real aliens! They will have the earth to themselves, and without a fight!”

“There may be temporary upheavals but soon all will succumb to the subtle power of many of  them who are still in disguise.”

“The things that happen during a bout with aliens assist them in their ascent – things they will attest to others in the universe —they murdered and raped and cheated, and they knew the risks.  Still they dabbled.”

“They did it to themselves in the final analysis.  They fell to their knees and the gods of the toilet by choice.  No one was forced, only prodded.”

“Still a few lived. They  were unable to survive the stench and view of the aliens true forms.  They died of fright in the black of the night.”

“So have another drink, my friend.  It can’t hurt…………………….

………………………………………or can it?”

 

WELCOME and GOOD MORNING

July 28, 2017

Time is of the essence. Perhaps the written record of one lost life saved, is not going to rescue the masses or feed the hungry. I guess you could say the essence of my life has been God and survival. My story spans the lives of many people in the one earthly body. Time took me from one place to another, sometimes by chance, others by choice, and still others by the hand of God and path provided by Jesus Christ. I am still meandering across my destiny….but now the end of the rocky trail is in my sight.

I know having to take pain medication, to maintain a sense of wholeness, is not good for me.
I keep a tight watch so that I take it and it does not take me. I know taking something to sleep through the night takes a toll on my poor brain, but I need to sleep. My dreams may be affected – or perhaps it is the length and breadth of the story of my life invades me while I sleep.

I want to fly again in my dreams. I remember clearly. I know how from simply standing I elevate and then us my arms and body to maneuver…between the buildings, over the pasture, high above the fabric of incidents that weave the human state on this earth today. It will not be forever that I can’t remember how.

As I close my eyes I want to pray the earnest prayer of grateful appreciation to my Master.
I want, as I drift off to sleep to see the road moving as if I were walking, but I am just above walking….the trees change and are thick and exquisite on the sides and I look ahead unable to tell if it is the sun rising or setting. It is just at the point of color and size that it almost tricks the eyes. But I know today the sun sets with a glow that leaves light along the path.

I know it is setting because before the sun rises the birds awaken and sing first a light and breezy good morning, and then a choir to the morning with a multitude of individual, wonderful birds.

Its as if the sinking of the sun is making way for the fullest of moons to peek, almost melding as the sun sinks, the moon rises to light the sky – in the same place and at the same moment.

I am certain there are a plethora of untapped and unseen resources that can be available for us all, but now for only those who are given the eyes to see and the ears to hear.

Be thee careful of thy words. Words can give life and can harm life. Each word has a meaning and before the words are spoken they a formed with thought. Careless words can rip and tear like a madman with the sharpest of knives.

Of course we can heal. We have been given the best of instruments with specific talents given to no other creatures on this planet. But if given a choice I would rather have a physical injury that one offered up by cruel words. After all the years the physical has healed. The wounds inflicted by unworthy words heal the slowest of all, and will leave a tender scar within the heart…for words alert the heart and senses of what is, perhaps, to come. Be thee careful with thy words.

My intent as I began to write this was actually not to post this…ah but why not! There is no reason to stop now. I still have time and am able! Maybe someone will read and enjoy my words as much as I enjoy writing them! I have high hopes.

Have an amazing day. Stop for one moment and hug yourself. Look into a mirror past what you see, and say -“ I love me, I am supposed to love me. I am God’s one of a kind!. I appreciate all I try to do for others. It always feels good, though it seems there is never enough time.” And if no one said “Thank you” remember the good you do enhances YOU and is for
your growth and well-being. They may not have been taught to say thank you, they may not have thought to say thank you, or they may just be little selfish people – I say little intently.
Your heart and kindness is growing as I write – I just know it!

Love and blessings- Remember I mean things when I say or write or pray the words! So again, LOVE and BLESSINGS to you all! Thanks for taking time to be a part of me.

Don’t forget to praise any attempt from someone to do or say “good.”

How to Receive Love – Part 2

June 7, 2017

GOOD MORNING. Today I will finish my 10 thoughts on How to Receive Love!

First, please read yesterdays post and the five initial thoughts the the subject. If you ask what makes me such an authority on the subject I will only say I have received so much love over the years sometimes it is stunning to me.

I have also had the worst times a person can endure and been treated at times, quite poorly.. I won’t go into details, but to me, the past IS the past. We can either learn to survive and thrive, or we can live in the past and wither under its powers. That is the beauty of today. It is a new day. It is a NEW LIFE – one to make with what you dream.

Even if commitments are wearing you thin, and challenges have reached the top of the pendulum, keep in mind – at this point, you can choose either direction – drop to the bottom or rise to the top. (If you aren’t sure what a pendulum is – find out! UNDERSTANDING is a key to receiving love.)

These five I will expound upon but in a shorter version (at least I will attempt shorter – I have been called a word meister, although others are far beyond me there, I do consider myself a life meister…

5. Forgive. If you “need” to forgive in a relationship, then do it…forgive and forget. If you can’t forget – you may as well say farewell instead of torturing yourself and someone else.
6. Be understanding of others. There is always a reason for a frown or nasty attitude. The person may be able to be touched with a smile. There are also those who will continue to be nasty no matter what. If you feel that negative or EVIL, do not stick around and think you can change them. Just be grateful to be free and say a prayer for them.
7. Always be polite and thoughtful. Keep conversation ALIVE. Conversation is a key to a great relationship and deep love. In the end, friendship will outlive everything else.
8. Be flexible – accept people for who they are, don’t get involved to change them!
9. Open your heart to receive love. Don’t boil in a pot of fear from past heart aches. That is the past. If you don’t step up and find YOU – you will not gain your confidence. Remember love YOU. You are unique, one of a kind, a creation of God, and each of us has something very special….dig that out and let your life begin again.
10. FIRST AND MOST IMPORTANT YOU MUST GIVE LOVE – real appreciation for each and every human being you come meet. I am NOT talking about sexual love or appetite….if this is to happen, it will. If not, so what! I am saying find something good about each person, some quality or feature that is theirs and let them know honestly and timely, that you appreciate it. Each of us is individual. There is something amazing in each of us….instead of “judging according to what the “media” standards are, or consensus of one group or another….be your own person and allow your judgment to flow in the way of pulling the good towards you and appreciating instead of immediately “seeing” and thinking you know that person.

We all want love. In order to receive love, we must first “love”…love in the sense of all these ten points, add in your own thoughts, and just accept that if you are positive and keep being the best of you, I promise, some time – someone will gravitate towards you and you will know.

Don’t be anxious. JUST BE! DECIDE TODAY IS GOING TO BE THE BEST EVER. Find the smile,HOPE and get going! Give love and it will come back to you…perhaps not at the moment it is given, but I will stake my life on “this return” – far safer than the stock market or the horse races. Just begin to take life not quite so seriously – have fun, insist on it. All the things we worry about really are silly in the LONG run…each moment CAN glow with the light of love if you start it! Start the flow….so easy to love if you allow yourself!

Even if you don’t believe in the Great Spirit, pretend someone is watching you and wants you to succeed…give it your all. (Of course I KNOW in my heart of hearts this Spirit is available to us all, inbuilt and waiting for activation.) I will always acknowledge, the truth for me is Jesus loved us first. He came to us in a gentle Spirit, a human body, and humbled himself to love us all. How could I not acknowledge my truth when I have the opportunity.

Every time I have ever needed an arm to hold on, a shoulder to cry on, someone to kick me in the fanny to start again – a prayer calling for help was sent from me, and all I had to do was let go of worry and trust I am in good hands!

I want you to have love. You may be loved by someone who admires you and you might not even know it. Don’t get SEX mixed up with LOVE. Of course it can be wonderful, but it is NOT love – it is SEX, mating, pheromones, lots of things…it can be called “making love”, however most people that I have known over a lifetime that actually make love – are those who are together for a long time. For them its not “just” sex…it is “making love” and it gets better and better. Practice makes perfect. That’s all I am saying. 🙂

Addendum: Don’t expect a relationship that is to last, a love that is to last, not to be a challenge at times.

Apply these ten thoughts, get in the habit of it, and the challenges at first -will melt like butter into a flow of life. Lastly never forget to give each other space. Respect that. Respect you may be a “couple” but you are still each an individual with thoughts and dreams. Trust it. Inhale a long and slow breath now (do it 🙂 With your exhalation, let jealousy and insecurities of the past fly from you out the fingertips and into oblivion. You’ll be happy you did. It is a new day! CREATE a great one.

I love you, you human being!